here we go again!

I have posted here a couple of times and been regularly reading other posts. A little bit of history; H had PA that lasted a few months (that I know of) and I was told about it by someone who saw the together. Before finding out I suspected and of course he denied, denied, denied. I had not discovered this yet so I went about it all wrong. We decided to try to mend our relationship and MC for a few months. There was some improvement but I felt I was doing most of the work. A few months ago I looked at his history on his computer and saw that he had been on porn sites and possible dating sites. I did not confront him because I needed more information. I have suspected he was up to his old ways again so I attempted to put a keylogger on his computer but that didn't work; I am not very computer savvy. I have had a gut feeling that he was cheating again and I started to keep track of his patterns and checking his phone periodically. Last night I checked and found a message from the original AP saying she can't get him out of her mind and she wishes she could be with him but she knows that is not possible. I confronted immediately because I felt I did not need any more evidence. I told him that any sort of contact with her would be cheating in my eyes. I did not tell him about seeing the text message but I told him I knew he was still in contact with her. Of course he denied it so I called the AP in front of him and she told me "I have tried to leave him many times" and I have proof if you want it. Then she went on to say that I need to talk to him and not involve her and I think she is right. The only reason I called her was because he kept denying anything has happened. Anyway, I told him he would have to leave and we would go our separate ways (we are common law). He left last night and spent the night at his office. We talked this morning and continues to deny everything. I told about the text message and he denied that also. I told him that is how I got her phone number. I told if none of this was true, then three of us should get together and he can defend himself. Of course that didn't go over well. He refuses to meet with her. He says it doesn't matter anymore because he is moving out. I think I will be fine but I am so worried about my daughter. She is 5 and will be starting school on Monday. What a sh1tty way to start kinder. Why do WS not think about the consequences to their children???? My other concern is that I am starting to doubt my self. What if it was a random text from her? Any thoughts? I just want to make the right decision but I feel selfish for removing my daughter's father from her daily life.

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