| Hi everyone. I've been seeing this guy from work who's known as a bit of a ladies man. We've been talking for about 3 months, and dating for about almost 3 months as well (not my bf yet). We've been taking things slow, which is why we haven't become exclusive yet I think. There was a drunken time which he tried to initiate declaring a status on our relationship but that fizzled as he sobered the next day. I've been fine with that up until recently. He's really close to 3 girls from work, one of which I'm close to as well, let's call her J. When it's just me and him and each of the other two girls, I always get the impression he's trying to impress me, but with J, I get the feeling he's trying to impress her. She had been in a relationship for years, but about a month ago, they broke up - was a mutual decision and they still see each other so it wasn't a messy break up. My guy and her have almost everything in common, whereas I don't have as much at all. Just recently, I noticed they have been hanging togehter more, he also moved briefly to a friends house near hers, so they go out to eat late at night. He texts me all the time, since we started talking, and they used to text too just not all the time. But now I noticed they text all the time as well, and I even notice he replies to her texts first before mine even though I send them first. He also used to text me first thing in the morning all the time, but just today I realised he texted her instead then fell asleep then texted me the 2nd time he woke up. He still texts me, and when I don't reply, he'll text me smething cute. So right now I feel like when she's busy, then I'm back to being the person he texts all the time but when she's free, he texts her promptly and while waiting for her reply he texts me. Thing is, since her break up, we've been hanging out with her a lot of the time. When it's the 3 of us, I feel like a third wheel to them, as he glances at her more oft en when he talks, he asks her questions about where to eat, mainly just asks her stuff. But to me, I have always been easy going and don't like making decisions, so that could also be the reason. When it's just us and he asks me, I just never have a definite answer. So as I mentioned, when the three of us hang, I feel shitty, BUT when it's just me and him, and when he's texting me, he still flirts with me and acts like I'm the one he wants to be with. The impression I get from her, is that before her break up, she sounded like she was really into us getting together, because it was like her two besties getting together (she's also had this thing to get me hooked up - she just never tried to hook US up, he just kind of took an interest in me). But now, idk if it's the jealously talking, but I feel like she kind of flirts with him, like cracking jokes about him checking her out. I guess what really got to me is the way he treats me around her, and the fact that he answers her texts before mine. I know he does answer her first, don't ask me how, too long to explain haha. But does it sound like he likes me and just really wants to be closer friends with her, or is he into her, and just tuning me for the time being until he knows he can have her? | |||
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