Advice Please!

Read this forum a lot but haven't made a thread or posted much before. I've been in a relationship with someone I met at University for the last 6 months. She has been amazing, we both have had problems at University (me more than her) and have helped each other out. I have now finished at University but she still has many years to go and then wants to stay in academia anyway. This is my first relationship (yes I'm 22 and haven't been in a relationship before!) and so obviously my first LDR. We knew it wouldn't be easy but that was ok. The problem is her Mum: being blunt she likes to control everything. She doesn't work but seems to control the household income/what happens (so my girlfriend has to clean/drive etc for her because she if not makes her life hell). This has led to a few problems where her Mum wants her to do something but she has wanted to see me but nothing major. However her Mum doesn't approve of me: she has told her daughter to break up and she has refused. This means she is constantly trying in a really under-hand way to do it, for instance I'm not allowed in their house, she cannot go on Skype at arbitrary times for no real reason, she cannot come and see me much. What's worse is she is trying to make me dump her daughter which to me seems like the way to really hurt her own daughter! Yesterday my parents had offered to drive me to near her house so I could see her for the day but her Mum won't even allow this, (and told her daughter to lie to me about the reason even though the lie would be obvious - so I'ld blame her I guess was the idea). It hasn't helped that whenever she/her family do something 'wrong' she makes me promise silence but whenever I do she tells everyone, it means I can't even tell my family without upsetting her!!! Basically I'm getting a job soon so won't be able to see her much and just feel the last chance I'm going to have for a while is being stolen from me :(. It's making me hateful as a person and I don't know what to do. The only time I'll be able to see her is when I go to University to see her and sit around a lot whilst she works (willing to but doesn't seem like a long-time solution!). Anyone? P.S. Sorry for the long post.

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