| I have needed someone to talk to and didn't know where to go until I found this site. My husband and I have been together about a year and a half. We got pregnant really quick, about 12 weeks into the pregnancy he cheated on me, decided to work through things, and then a couple weeks later we lost the baby. The next couple months were rough but things got better, we got closer. Only 3 months after having a miscarriage I got pregnant again, but this time with twins. The pregnancy wasn't exactly normal but the babies were growing fine until I started to show signs of early labor and had them at 26 weeks. They were both born healthy but due to a bad delivery our son had many issues and we had to watch him suffer for 3 months, when and where we had to make the decision to withdrawal care. The hardest decision of my life, we were losing him and it was either let him fade away in pain or end his pain and let him go to heaven. Our daughter is fine, healt hy and is finally home after 4 months in the hospital. Our relationship has been tested so many times and we have fought through everything, until now. We bicker and fight all the time. After I had the twins I didn't lose any of the 60 pounds I had gained, my husband looks at me different now. He doesn't ever want to have sex, but claims its not me its him. If that was the case wouldn't he stop watching porn? I don't care that he does watch porn but I have noticed that instead of having sex with me he just watches porn. And when we do have sex, hell just stop and say he got off, but I know he didn't. We don't use condoms so I would know if he had actually finished, which confuses me, because if it's not me then why would he feel he has to lie about it? To make a long story short, he now gets angry faster, nit picks at me, doesn't want to have sex with me, fibs about stupid things, doesn't actually spend anytime with me...he just seems generally fed up with me. We had a talk yesterday about separation and he finally agreed with me about us falling apart...and acted like he considered separation until our daughter was brought up....I guess we agreed to try to go back to the beginning but I wonder how long that will actually work. He told me dutring the conversation that nothing will ever change it never does, and that we are 2 different people now and have none of the same opinions. Oh and we also have nothing in common....I'm sorry for this being so long but I don't know what to do. He just seems to hopless and negative about the situation so I don't know if this "going back to the beginning" will work. I feel I am a good woman, and a good wife, but I don't know how long I can go without the sexual connection and f eeling like my husband is attracted to me and loves me. I do everything for him, just to feel like I don't get anything back. Sex doesn't make the relationship but it is a important part in it, there are connections and feelings during sex, you don't get anywhere else..... can anyone help me? Any opinions about my situation? | |||
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