Newly married and already sex is a problem

Hello everyone, I recently married a beautiful woman who I met on my many travels. I live in the UK and my wife is from the Philippines, she moved here to be with me and we got married. My wife was a virgin when we married, something expected from a lot of women in the Philippines. So far, we have had sex once! I say once, but I tried a few times. The problem was my wife was never too into doing anything, apart from being fully nude and making herself available she was very stand-offish and would quickly move herself out of the way when I tried to enter her. This was because she was nervous and kept asking me to "Go slow". I would lose my erection as well as I could sense she wasn't really up for doing anything and this made things worse. I would give her oral sex, but after a few minutes she would push me away as this made her feel "week", I've tried this a few times but it usually ends in her trying to push me away and going to sleep. The only successful moment of full sex we had was after a night of drinking with friends when I tried yet again and finally my wife gave me back some response, she even gave me oral sex for a few moments and then we had full sex. Unfortunately, she has suffered some pain during this and now simply pushes me away at every attempt I make to even kiss her. I suffered some pain then also as her vagina is very tight and for the next day or so I felt a little pain in my penis. But I think with continued practice, we could overcome this pain and move on into a healthy sex life. We've only been married a month and I try to do my best for her, but it is getting me down and a part of me wants to stop making moves. I suspect my wife might not have been a virgin, but a victim of some sexual abuse of some kind. I have nothing to base this on except my gut feeling, but she doesn't like to talk about it. Can anyone relate to this?

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