I've been dating a guy for six weeks and we were gradually getting to know each other, I'm 48 and he is 52. We see each other mid-week and at weekends and I've very much enjoyed my time with him. Just recently I have noticed on and off that he drops sexist comments and shows signs of male chauvinism. He contradicts me sometimes and at times has made negative comments about my friends. Last weekend I had to change my plan to see him, so instead of Sunday during the day, I had to make it early evening as I had to visit my mum who is suffering with dementia. I phoned him just before I left my mums place and detected that he sounded a bit off. I told him I'd just helped her out and cleaned her place. He said that I shouldn't have to do that! I told him that I was more than happy to help my mum anytime, I was then annoyed with him, but I didn't show it.
When I got to his place, I had just stepped inside the door and he started raising his voice and shouting at me and continued to do so. He said if I hadn't gone out with my friends on the Friday night and got in late I could have gone to my mums on the Saturday and not messed up our weekend. A school friend had visited me who had made arrangements with me way before I even met him. I was very upset with him raising his voice and I even cried, which is not like me at all, I think I was shocked by his approach. I told him when he calmed down that I will not be shouted out like that, that kind of communication does not suit me at all.
He told me how much I mean to him and that he would do anything for me. I told him that I was a bit concerned that he has a controlling streak that I'm not used too, that's not what I want for myself and he didn't really answer me. He apologised for shouting, but I was way too upset by then. I told him that I was unable to talk to him that evening and that I would have to go home. I did and I haven't heard or seen him since. I am down about this as I thought maybe I'd found a nice guy at last after a couple of years of dating after my husband had an affair and we split. I think I already know this, but I think this guy is a control freak. I also think I am right not to contact him. Thoughts please?
When I got to his place, I had just stepped inside the door and he started raising his voice and shouting at me and continued to do so. He said if I hadn't gone out with my friends on the Friday night and got in late I could have gone to my mums on the Saturday and not messed up our weekend. A school friend had visited me who had made arrangements with me way before I even met him. I was very upset with him raising his voice and I even cried, which is not like me at all, I think I was shocked by his approach. I told him when he calmed down that I will not be shouted out like that, that kind of communication does not suit me at all.
He told me how much I mean to him and that he would do anything for me. I told him that I was a bit concerned that he has a controlling streak that I'm not used too, that's not what I want for myself and he didn't really answer me. He apologised for shouting, but I was way too upset by then. I told him that I was unable to talk to him that evening and that I would have to go home. I did and I haven't heard or seen him since. I am down about this as I thought maybe I'd found a nice guy at last after a couple of years of dating after my husband had an affair and we split. I think I already know this, but I think this guy is a control freak. I also think I am right not to contact him. Thoughts please?
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