I am doing well. I am doing what needs to be done in my progress to repair the damage I've done, but I am now at an impasse because of my last attempt to be open and honest with my wife. As some of you know, I have committed to be open and honest with my wife and she agreed. Well...
Last time I was honest with her, I was accused of still "looking"...
I suppose we can overlook that I told her I noticed the male clerk at the local auto parts store looking at me "up and down" as I exited the store, but the accusation of..."still looking?" Really? Yeah, a big argument ensued over that.
It left me thinking that perhaps I should just go about doing what I need to do and not telling her...because I really don't need to be told that I am still looking when I am in IC and group twice weekly and I am doing all my assignments in DBT (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy).
So yesterday, "that woman" I work with that told me a couple of months ago that she is "always thinking about me" and she gave me hug had to come over to my office to deliver some supplies, right? OK, so...
she walks into my building, stops and says "hi" and asks if I can help her carry dome advertising supplies in. I agree. well, so she "trips" and I ask if she's OK. She tells me she is and then begins to tell me that it's a good thing she only wears her stilettos in bed...Umm...right.
I didn't even touch that with a ten foot pole. I laughed, but didn't even give her anything more to build upon.
So my question is...
Do I risk a full out argument, or simply leave it as it is? this woman isn't aggressively pursuing me, but every time we do encounter one another, she drops these "hints", ya know?
Just a little gun shy and looking for advice, thanks all.
Last time I was honest with her, I was accused of still "looking"...
I suppose we can overlook that I told her I noticed the male clerk at the local auto parts store looking at me "up and down" as I exited the store, but the accusation of..."still looking?" Really? Yeah, a big argument ensued over that.
It left me thinking that perhaps I should just go about doing what I need to do and not telling her...because I really don't need to be told that I am still looking when I am in IC and group twice weekly and I am doing all my assignments in DBT (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy).
So yesterday, "that woman" I work with that told me a couple of months ago that she is "always thinking about me" and she gave me hug had to come over to my office to deliver some supplies, right? OK, so...
she walks into my building, stops and says "hi" and asks if I can help her carry dome advertising supplies in. I agree. well, so she "trips" and I ask if she's OK. She tells me she is and then begins to tell me that it's a good thing she only wears her stilettos in bed...Umm...right.
I didn't even touch that with a ten foot pole. I laughed, but didn't even give her anything more to build upon.
So my question is...
Do I risk a full out argument, or simply leave it as it is? this woman isn't aggressively pursuing me, but every time we do encounter one another, she drops these "hints", ya know?
Just a little gun shy and looking for advice, thanks all.
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