Dec. was the "first anniversary" since d-day, I still think about his affair, maybe not 24/7 like in the beginning, but still think about it daily. Oct/Nov and Dec were tough, because I knew the "dates" he was with her. We are still together, we did learn a lot about our feelings during therapy, he kept his feelings to himself and so did I. I thought after being married for 19 yrs. this is how it is now (stuck in a rut) kind of feeling. But overall therapy never worked for us, we actually fought more, we just didn't have a good therapist.
I still struggle with his affair because it was with a friend of ours, and they (my friend and her husband) they seem happy? Since this happened she (my friend) her husband has taken her on mini-vacations and Disney twice and wherever else since D-day. I know this because we have a mutual friend, actually I told our mutual friend not to bring her to me anymore. Even though we as a family have gone away, it's just not the same for me. There's a part of me that says hey... if your happy (our friends) I should be too. I recently heard they went on a cruise and stupid me looked on social media, well they went the week which it would have the "one year" anniversary of d-day, so of course there was pictures of the family and ones with just them on the beach holding drinks in there hand!!!
When that day I totally ignored my husband!! I wouldn't talk to him, look at him. Went to work and from there met my cousin at a restaurant and never got home until 9:00, I did this because I didn't want to show "my attitude" because of my son and here they were on a cruise, ugh!!!
My husband feels I shouldnt take about it anymore, he knows I'll never forget it, he just feels if I still talk about it, we will never move on, which I know what he means. But I just can't get it out of my mind. I told him the other day that I would be happy if I could go one day!!!! without thinking about it, but a year later I still haven't. Overall I still love him, still look forward to seeing him everyday and spending time together as a family. I just take it day by day like I have, maybe 2 years in will be a little better. Now I'm just taking care of me!!! mentally and physically and my son.
I still struggle with his affair because it was with a friend of ours, and they (my friend and her husband) they seem happy? Since this happened she (my friend) her husband has taken her on mini-vacations and Disney twice and wherever else since D-day. I know this because we have a mutual friend, actually I told our mutual friend not to bring her to me anymore. Even though we as a family have gone away, it's just not the same for me. There's a part of me that says hey... if your happy (our friends) I should be too. I recently heard they went on a cruise and stupid me looked on social media, well they went the week which it would have the "one year" anniversary of d-day, so of course there was pictures of the family and ones with just them on the beach holding drinks in there hand!!!
When that day I totally ignored my husband!! I wouldn't talk to him, look at him. Went to work and from there met my cousin at a restaurant and never got home until 9:00, I did this because I didn't want to show "my attitude" because of my son and here they were on a cruise, ugh!!!
My husband feels I shouldnt take about it anymore, he knows I'll never forget it, he just feels if I still talk about it, we will never move on, which I know what he means. But I just can't get it out of my mind. I told him the other day that I would be happy if I could go one day!!!! without thinking about it, but a year later I still haven't. Overall I still love him, still look forward to seeing him everyday and spending time together as a family. I just take it day by day like I have, maybe 2 years in will be a little better. Now I'm just taking care of me!!! mentally and physically and my son.
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