Hi all. Thanks for taking the time to read my post. I have some pretty big issues going on in my life with baby daddy. We aren't married, he has another child with a woman whom he basically had a one night stand with. Anyhow, me and him now have an 8 month old baby boy together. Basically he is never around, when he works its 12 hour shifts, when hes not working he is gone all day fishing or doing whatever he wants. He gets his little girl on occasion, basically when he has no other plans he will get her. He has left her there with me several times to go fishing. He doesn't ask if I mind keeping her and several times has left her there without telling me. For instance, I got up one morning only to find her sitting on the couch eating chips and had a whole gallon of milk out! She is three. He never asked or told me he was leaving her with me and I had plans that day.
He doesn't help around the house, he doesn't help with our son. He is not respectful of me or him. He is constantly waking him up because he is so loud. To be honest we don't have a relationship. We don't do anything together, we don't share the same bed, he vaguely listens to me talk doesn't seem to care about my concerns or just me in general.
I don't want to be with him anymore then he wants to be with me apparently, however I do not want to leave and have my son subjected to what his little girl is subjected too. He takes her fishing with him ALL day, he says she barely talks to him and she sleeps mostly on the boat.
I am in a pickle I think, because I want the best for my child, but I do not want him with his dad because he is not trustworthy, attentive or stable. I do want him to have a relationship with his dad but I just wish his dad was a different person!
I work only part time and really cant provide a decent up bringing for my son alone and I do not want to work full time and let someone else raise my kid for me. I know sometimes you have to do things you don't want too but I am at my wits in with this man.
In my opinion he only wants me there to keep from having to pay child support and so he can see his child, he went through a lot with this other woman getting to see his little girl, which he barely sees anyhow so I cannot figure out why he acted like it was such a big deal when we were dating.
I have never been as disrespected or treated so horribly by anyone in my life, as he has treated me. I was going through a divorce and having a hard time standing on my two feet when we met and I guess I just didn't want to be alone so I stuck by him. He threw me out of his home several times, for reasons unknown to me, other then he thought I was cheating. Which I wasn't. He has lied to me about things with is ex, the one he has the baby with, his ex has stolen my clothes, trash talked me and my child and I am still supposed to want to help raise their daughter??
I'm sorry if I have extreme resentment towards both of them as well as animosity. Its hard for me to even want to be around the little girl, even though shes not at fault and she is a sweet little girl. I am just having a hard time dealing with all the craziness. Some advice is much appreciated. I know everyone will say I need to leave him, but I just don't think I can send my son off to stay with him without my supervision!!
He doesn't help around the house, he doesn't help with our son. He is not respectful of me or him. He is constantly waking him up because he is so loud. To be honest we don't have a relationship. We don't do anything together, we don't share the same bed, he vaguely listens to me talk doesn't seem to care about my concerns or just me in general.
I don't want to be with him anymore then he wants to be with me apparently, however I do not want to leave and have my son subjected to what his little girl is subjected too. He takes her fishing with him ALL day, he says she barely talks to him and she sleeps mostly on the boat.
I am in a pickle I think, because I want the best for my child, but I do not want him with his dad because he is not trustworthy, attentive or stable. I do want him to have a relationship with his dad but I just wish his dad was a different person!
I work only part time and really cant provide a decent up bringing for my son alone and I do not want to work full time and let someone else raise my kid for me. I know sometimes you have to do things you don't want too but I am at my wits in with this man.
In my opinion he only wants me there to keep from having to pay child support and so he can see his child, he went through a lot with this other woman getting to see his little girl, which he barely sees anyhow so I cannot figure out why he acted like it was such a big deal when we were dating.
I have never been as disrespected or treated so horribly by anyone in my life, as he has treated me. I was going through a divorce and having a hard time standing on my two feet when we met and I guess I just didn't want to be alone so I stuck by him. He threw me out of his home several times, for reasons unknown to me, other then he thought I was cheating. Which I wasn't. He has lied to me about things with is ex, the one he has the baby with, his ex has stolen my clothes, trash talked me and my child and I am still supposed to want to help raise their daughter??
I'm sorry if I have extreme resentment towards both of them as well as animosity. Its hard for me to even want to be around the little girl, even though shes not at fault and she is a sweet little girl. I am just having a hard time dealing with all the craziness. Some advice is much appreciated. I know everyone will say I need to leave him, but I just don't think I can send my son off to stay with him without my supervision!!
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