Hi everyone,
New guy here. Some background: I've been married for 15 years and have two kids (12 & 13). My wife and I have had our ups and downs during our marriage. After coming thisclose to divorcing 4 years ago, we have been treating each other much better in the last few years, it hasn't been without problems.
For me, it's been lack of intimacy and sex. For her, it is holding onto grudges of past memories of fights we had. She says that she has a low libido and that's the reason but sometimes she says it is the grudges that keep her from being intimate (no sex for last 3 months)
Before tonight, she said that gradually maybe she will change and will feel like being intimate. However, tonight was a perfect opportunity with the kids away all night but she rebuffed my attempts at initiating something intimate. That led to a discussion about our relationship (which she hates doing) and ultimately talk of divorce came up. We both agreed that it would be bad for the kids and financially. So we came to an agreement to stay together until the kids graduate from high school. No sex, just partners until 2020.
I went to therapy, and still go occasionally, for 2 years after the "almost divorce" 4 years ago. We tried marriage counseling but it only made us angrier with each other.
Thanks for reading this far. So....has anyone tried or have been successful in a sex-less marriage with plans to divorce at a certain time? Is this crazy? Thanks in advance for any replies. I'll supply more info if that would be helpful.
New guy here. Some background: I've been married for 15 years and have two kids (12 & 13). My wife and I have had our ups and downs during our marriage. After coming thisclose to divorcing 4 years ago, we have been treating each other much better in the last few years, it hasn't been without problems.
For me, it's been lack of intimacy and sex. For her, it is holding onto grudges of past memories of fights we had. She says that she has a low libido and that's the reason but sometimes she says it is the grudges that keep her from being intimate (no sex for last 3 months)
Before tonight, she said that gradually maybe she will change and will feel like being intimate. However, tonight was a perfect opportunity with the kids away all night but she rebuffed my attempts at initiating something intimate. That led to a discussion about our relationship (which she hates doing) and ultimately talk of divorce came up. We both agreed that it would be bad for the kids and financially. So we came to an agreement to stay together until the kids graduate from high school. No sex, just partners until 2020.
I went to therapy, and still go occasionally, for 2 years after the "almost divorce" 4 years ago. We tried marriage counseling but it only made us angrier with each other.
Thanks for reading this far. So....has anyone tried or have been successful in a sex-less marriage with plans to divorce at a certain time? Is this crazy? Thanks in advance for any replies. I'll supply more info if that would be helpful.
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