Your girlfriend/boyfriend (as appropriate) was having a conversation or otherwise preoccupied by someone else whist on phone to you?
My long distance relationship is going down the pan. Everything was fine until she moved away to start her job for summer. We talk less over the last week (she's been away for about two weeks).
I get perhaps maybe one text a day maybe more, and whilst I might sound whiny, the texts are very short and not detailed. I just get a feeling she isn't bothered anymore. She reassures me she loves me etc, but her words seem hollow. I've been so stressed and unhappy lately with it all.
I confessed to her my feelings about the distance, how hard it is, and how I love her but we hardly talk. She got upset and told me it sounded like I wanted to tell her it was over. Which I didn't as I would never want to lose her, she said she panicked.
She said she was really upset with me and cried after the phone call. It's just I don't feel she is 100% into me! even though she keeps telling me otherwise.
I get insanely jealous that she talks about this girl she just met over a week ago, and how friendly they are getting.
Now, my girlfriend likes boys and girls and so (although I know sexuality doesn't mean she's more likely to cheat), I feel I'm always looking over my shoulder, since she is a bubbly person. I am sick of always worrying about her, what she's up to. Today, when I phoned her she was having a conversation with this girl as she kept walking in and out the room. I
nearly lost my temper, I just find it really rude, as we are Long distance, therefore I don't get to see her. To me, our time is valuable, when she is on the phone to me she should be focused on me.
Don't get me wrong, if she wanted to talk to her friend she could have done by ending our call and finishing up their conversation. I'm not sure if I am over-reacting here, but I found it a bit disrespectful. I haven't mentioned any of this stuff, since I don't want to upset her again. But it's just she mentions this girl a lot, and she said me and her had a certain amount of time before her and this girl wanted to watch a movie.
I guess you could say I'm pretty damn jealous, but more enraged. I had to stop myself, and becoming rather passive aggressive with her.
I even indirectly took a pop at her over phone, she was like "oh I've realised your still here and I've sort of left you here...", I was like "yeah yes yes...I'm waiting....rather PATIENTLY!" She didn't react to me at all, almost as though she didn't sense my angst in my tone.
She mentioned me meeting this girl when I go down, but that isn't a good idea.
I'm fed up of this, she was laughing like a schoolgirl with this other girl chattering away as I was just simply on the other end, just like...okay. I'm not being horrible here at all, I'm glad she's making new friends, but it seems their more important than me. I'm her boyfriend and she is not treating me like I matter.
I then joked with her saying that I hoped she was behaving herself, to which she replied she was in a high pitched tone.
I just feel I can't control myself so much aggression inside me. I guess I don't trust her, or any women that I've been in a relationship with.
An I right to be upset here?
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