Sorry if this post ends up being a long one, thank you in advance if you make it to the end :$
I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, but recently he just won't stop lying. Some small examples are:
- He will say he's blocked someone on facebook/snapchat (without me even asking him to) and then I'll find out he lied to me- because I never even asked him to do that it makes me wonder why he'd even bother to say it.
- He will text me saying he's at home when he's actually not. He told me he was making a BBQ in his garden, when he was actually out with people getting drunk. Once again, I never would have said he couldn't do that- but why did he have to lie about it?
- He recently went on a break away- and it was agreed although we wouldn't talk as much as we do usually, he will still ring me for 10 minutes in the evening to say goodnight. He didn't text or ring the entire time and didn't even apologise- even though he admitted he said he would ring.
- He lies to me about what times he's at work. Once again, I have no idea why he would do this, because it's not like I have anything to say about it, it just is weird he would bother to lie.
They are only a few of many, many small things recently. I know it seems ridiculous and pathetic- trust me, I would love to not care about it but I just can't help it. I don't understand why he feels the need to lie- I have tried to talk to him and explained none of that stuff would give me any reason to argue (or even have anything to say about it really) but he just continues to lie.
It's got to the point where I'm making up all these scenarios in my head to try and figure out why he is lying about every little thing to me. I have cried and begged him to stop, to which he first says he will then suddenly gets angry and denies that he is lying (even when he is caught out) and tells me I need to grow up and that I'm an idiot and that I'm too much to deal with and I'm pathetic.
I don't understand why he would say those things to me, when I haven't even done anything other than try to communicate with him. I haven't had a go, I haven't tried to start an argument- all I do is try and get him to stop lying and then I get verbally attacked. He doesn't realise how much it actually hurts and how what he says sticks with me, and I really don't know what to do.
I just am finding it so hard to trust what he, or anyone else says to me, now. I feel so confused and hurt, and I don't know what to believe when he talks to me any more. I love him, but I have no idea how to convey this to him- as I said, when I try he just denies it and makes me feel like it's all my fault.
I'm starting to believe that I am pathetic and I am an idiot- but all these little lies all the time every day has built up to the point where I just need advice from someone outside the situation.
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