I have been lurking around this website for a while now. Many good advice on relationships and marriages. Now I really need help! I have posted my story of mmsl forum and am getting great advice there. But the more advice I have the better. Let me tell ya a little of my story.
I just came apon this website and am hoping for some good advice. I am in my Mid 30s and have three children, who happen to be girls under the age of 7(Dear lord......please help me!) I married my beautiful wife in 2005. We dated for quite a few years before we got married. 8 years to be exact. Why so long you may ask? I was 18 at the time and she was 15. Way to young to get serious in a relationship. We seemed like the perfect match. As time went by we had our ups and our downs. In 2003 we were not getting along at all and I decided to end the relationship. I started dating a girl from my work. It was fun, and we had a good time, but I really was starting to regret ending my relationship with my wife. I finally gave in and called her about six months later. I met her at a park(she had her "boyfriend" there with her), and we talked for a bit.....awkward!!!!!! We both decided that we made some mistakes in our relationship and wanted to try again. We started dat ing again and things seemed to be getting better. We both were getting older and a little wiser. In Febuary of 2005 I asked her to marry me. In August of 2005 we were married!
The first couple years of our marriage were pretty awesome. We did some traveling and started to settle in to our new life together. Now, I knew my wife suffered from mild depression and was on some medication to counteract it. What I didnt realize is how much it would affect our sex life. Our sex life was pretty good before we got married. After.......thats the problem. In 2007 we welcomed our first child. She ended up having some health issues at birth which was pretty stressful on me and my wife. But everything turned out to be OK. She still has the same issues today, but things are looking better. She was born with a hole in her heart that never sealed up. Its called a VSD. We have yearly visits with our Pediatric Cardiologist to make sure everything is still good. So far......so good.
We didnt wait long to have our second child(me having a high sex drive, wife being on antibiotics) oops..... but a good oops. Wouldnt have it any other way. Our second girl was born a year and 2 weeks later. They are the best of friends! After our second daughter was born our sex life was completely gone. My wife was just to busy taking care of the kids and by the end of the night she just wanted to go to bed. We were having sex maybe once or twice a month! It sucked. I just learned to live with it I guess.
My wife is a SAHM and I work 2 jobs trying to support our children. She is a great mom! I will give her that. Our kids are well taken care of and have no worries about that. But it seemed like our marriage took a back seat. In fact if I were to ask her today what is most important in her life it would be our children. Despite that we had our third girl in 2010. She is awesome and would have it any other way.
As our kids grew older and less attached to us I was hoping we would reconnect in our marriage and maybe start having sex more frequently. Ummmmm. no! Between her taking care of the kids and her depression medication our sex life in pretty much non existent. Lucky to have it once a month. And when we do it me initiating and her reluctintly agreeing to it. I feel guilty having sex with her as I know she is not into it at all. I have told her how important it is for me to have physical intimacy with her and her response" Well I can go off my medication and be a ***** to you and maybe have a little more sex drive, or stay on my meds and be nice to you and have no sex drive".
Now the problem other than the wifes sex drive. I did some research tonight and some not so good news came out of it. I look at my cell phone records and a number popped out at me only for the sole reason it was from another state and they seemed to talk for more than 35 minutes each call. And to really piss me off my wife is trying to hide it from me. Every time this individual would call I would be on my night shift at work or he would call before I got home from work. I have my entire work schedule for the year. I crossed refrenced it. What in the hell do I do? I found out who this person is through facebook and HE is a facebook friend of my wifes. And met this guy on a:mad: damn casino game. I really want to put a keylogger on her phone, but I can never get it away from her. And she password protects it. Things are starting to add up a little. What would you guys do?
I just came apon this website and am hoping for some good advice. I am in my Mid 30s and have three children, who happen to be girls under the age of 7(Dear lord......please help me!) I married my beautiful wife in 2005. We dated for quite a few years before we got married. 8 years to be exact. Why so long you may ask? I was 18 at the time and she was 15. Way to young to get serious in a relationship. We seemed like the perfect match. As time went by we had our ups and our downs. In 2003 we were not getting along at all and I decided to end the relationship. I started dating a girl from my work. It was fun, and we had a good time, but I really was starting to regret ending my relationship with my wife. I finally gave in and called her about six months later. I met her at a park(she had her "boyfriend" there with her), and we talked for a bit.....awkward!!!!!! We both decided that we made some mistakes in our relationship and wanted to try again. We started dat ing again and things seemed to be getting better. We both were getting older and a little wiser. In Febuary of 2005 I asked her to marry me. In August of 2005 we were married!
The first couple years of our marriage were pretty awesome. We did some traveling and started to settle in to our new life together. Now, I knew my wife suffered from mild depression and was on some medication to counteract it. What I didnt realize is how much it would affect our sex life. Our sex life was pretty good before we got married. After.......thats the problem. In 2007 we welcomed our first child. She ended up having some health issues at birth which was pretty stressful on me and my wife. But everything turned out to be OK. She still has the same issues today, but things are looking better. She was born with a hole in her heart that never sealed up. Its called a VSD. We have yearly visits with our Pediatric Cardiologist to make sure everything is still good. So far......so good.
We didnt wait long to have our second child(me having a high sex drive, wife being on antibiotics) oops..... but a good oops. Wouldnt have it any other way. Our second girl was born a year and 2 weeks later. They are the best of friends! After our second daughter was born our sex life was completely gone. My wife was just to busy taking care of the kids and by the end of the night she just wanted to go to bed. We were having sex maybe once or twice a month! It sucked. I just learned to live with it I guess.
My wife is a SAHM and I work 2 jobs trying to support our children. She is a great mom! I will give her that. Our kids are well taken care of and have no worries about that. But it seemed like our marriage took a back seat. In fact if I were to ask her today what is most important in her life it would be our children. Despite that we had our third girl in 2010. She is awesome and would have it any other way.
As our kids grew older and less attached to us I was hoping we would reconnect in our marriage and maybe start having sex more frequently. Ummmmm. no! Between her taking care of the kids and her depression medication our sex life in pretty much non existent. Lucky to have it once a month. And when we do it me initiating and her reluctintly agreeing to it. I feel guilty having sex with her as I know she is not into it at all. I have told her how important it is for me to have physical intimacy with her and her response" Well I can go off my medication and be a ***** to you and maybe have a little more sex drive, or stay on my meds and be nice to you and have no sex drive".
Now the problem other than the wifes sex drive. I did some research tonight and some not so good news came out of it. I look at my cell phone records and a number popped out at me only for the sole reason it was from another state and they seemed to talk for more than 35 minutes each call. And to really piss me off my wife is trying to hide it from me. Every time this individual would call I would be on my night shift at work or he would call before I got home from work. I have my entire work schedule for the year. I crossed refrenced it. What in the hell do I do? I found out who this person is through facebook and HE is a facebook friend of my wifes. And met this guy on a:mad: damn casino game. I really want to put a keylogger on her phone, but I can never get it away from her. And she password protects it. Things are starting to add up a little. What would you guys do?
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