Hey there, thank you for reading this. Some of you may recognize my name since I've posted before. I posted a few times in the past on how my husband had a drinking problem n would always leave me to go to strip clubs. Things between us were really bad about 6-9 months ago...well, I messed up in that time. I went out in the midst of it all n met up with an old male friend that was in town. We were drinking n ended up kissing. I left right after , nothing else happened n we no longer talk (it wasn't like that). This was back in September. Husband never knew though on a few of my outbursts while he was on a drinking rampage I yelled at him n said "that's why I cheated!" It's like he never believed me. Well, it's finally come out 2 days ago bcuz our marriage has improved significantly over the past 4 months. He stopped drinking (mainly bcuz he finally got a DUI n has interlock device in his truck). Our marriage is great n he's definitely become a better husb and, a better man. Unfortunately the truth always comes out I guess. We were having a deep conversation that he initiated n he said he wanted us to leave the past in the past n not hide anything. So I asked if he cheated bcuz all the strip clubs, c'mon , he said no but then of course reversed the question. N I confessed.
At first he was calm, he got up, took a shower. I went in the bathroom n asked if he was gonna divorce me, I apologized. He said he can't really be mad at me bcuz he went to strip clubs n that was kind of cheating too (I told him plenty of times to me it was the utter betrayal n how it made me feel insecure yet he always went). After that he was acting normal except he would not kiss me bcuz he said it was weird.
Ok, come 2:30am while we are sleeping, he wakes n tells me if I ever do anything again with another man that he's divorcing me. I said ok. Then come the questions, what did I do that night n he doesn't believe me that we only kissed n he doesn't know if we did anything else. I told him we didn't n answered the questions. Then he says he can't do it that it's just gonna get worse n he wants a divorce. I ask what changed n he tells me to go to bed n he's now sleeping. He doesn't want counseling n I even offered to move out.
I know I messed up n i haven't once brought up how this was 9 months ago in the midst of our crazy marriage that I hated. Now that things were so wonderful it comes out. I never said anything to him in the form of a serious conversation bcuz I sincerely regretted it n thought it would just cause harm. I always thought there were things he did while out n at strip clubs that I would never know about n I kind of accepted that n moved on. I need help, I'm not trying to be insensitive n I know I messed up. What now?
We also had sex tonight which he initiated. Even talked about having a baby....
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At first he was calm, he got up, took a shower. I went in the bathroom n asked if he was gonna divorce me, I apologized. He said he can't really be mad at me bcuz he went to strip clubs n that was kind of cheating too (I told him plenty of times to me it was the utter betrayal n how it made me feel insecure yet he always went). After that he was acting normal except he would not kiss me bcuz he said it was weird.
Ok, come 2:30am while we are sleeping, he wakes n tells me if I ever do anything again with another man that he's divorcing me. I said ok. Then come the questions, what did I do that night n he doesn't believe me that we only kissed n he doesn't know if we did anything else. I told him we didn't n answered the questions. Then he says he can't do it that it's just gonna get worse n he wants a divorce. I ask what changed n he tells me to go to bed n he's now sleeping. He doesn't want counseling n I even offered to move out.
I know I messed up n i haven't once brought up how this was 9 months ago in the midst of our crazy marriage that I hated. Now that things were so wonderful it comes out. I never said anything to him in the form of a serious conversation bcuz I sincerely regretted it n thought it would just cause harm. I always thought there were things he did while out n at strip clubs that I would never know about n I kind of accepted that n moved on. I need help, I'm not trying to be insensitive n I know I messed up. What now?
We also had sex tonight which he initiated. Even talked about having a baby....
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