After a long time contemplating divorce, I took one step closer today. I went online and contacted a divorce lawyer. It was a website called illlinoisdivorce.com and it offers a free phone consult. They also send you a booklet and emails that answer questions one might have, offer suggestions about what or what not to do, offer a therapist contact service if counseling is preferred either to prevent divorce or to deal with it, etc.... I am waiting for a lawyer from the site to call.
Sounds minute, but it's a huge step for me. I am a Christian, a former church pastor, and my wife is a missionary's daughter. Divorce is not an acceptable alternative to most Christians unless sexual immorality or infidelity is involved. This is not an easy decision for me, something I have prayerfully considered. We have two children, one in high school and the other in college.
There are two issues for me, neither have been solved through counseling. She has told me more than once that she does not respect me because she can not respect a man she does not agree with. The last time I remember having sex with my wife was when our son was three -- because there was a miscarriage that occurred around that time. Affection completely died at that same time. My wife does not want to do anything to change our physical relationship and has left the decision about our marriage up to me.
What are the next few months going to be like?
Sounds minute, but it's a huge step for me. I am a Christian, a former church pastor, and my wife is a missionary's daughter. Divorce is not an acceptable alternative to most Christians unless sexual immorality or infidelity is involved. This is not an easy decision for me, something I have prayerfully considered. We have two children, one in high school and the other in college.
There are two issues for me, neither have been solved through counseling. She has told me more than once that she does not respect me because she can not respect a man she does not agree with. The last time I remember having sex with my wife was when our son was three -- because there was a miscarriage that occurred around that time. Affection completely died at that same time. My wife does not want to do anything to change our physical relationship and has left the decision about our marriage up to me.
What are the next few months going to be like?
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