Almost more hung up about the potential replacement bf than I am about my ex

and I can't blame her. I can't fault her guy friend, he is just…great. Previously I referred to him as Superman-let's now call him Clark (and he looks a little like Clark Kent, she said this herself : | )

I'll post the second half of this outside of OP. Warning: Personal Therapy thread ahead :o

With reference to the below threads and more, all pointing to certain central issues, that I hope TSR will be glad I am dealing with with a counsellor. This doubt is really getting in the way of me doing my coursework. But I'm here for a second opinion any who and have compiled the major ones (I must have made about 30 threads on this topic, and another 30+on needing to ask permission from my parents to work out or eat healthily and some creepy ones, ****)

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See especially these on 'Clark' and the heartbreak

http://ift.tt/1hkKv0m
http://ift.tt/1hkKv0q
http://ift.tt/1ijGCUO
http://ift.tt/1ijGDb4
http://ift.tt/1ijGEMg
http://ift.tt/1ijGDba


and these on the mentality behind why I feel inferior to him (and other similar guys) if anyone actually has the time to do so, I'd be grateful

http://ift.tt/1ijGDbc
http://ift.tt/1ijGEMp
http://ift.tt/1ijGF2I
http://ift.tt/1hkKtpk
http://ift.tt/1hkKvgW

http://ift.tt/1hkKvgY
http://ift.tt/1hkKvh0
http://ift.tt/1hkKtpo
http://ift.tt/1hkKtpq
http://ift.tt/1ijGDIn
http://ift.tt/1ijGGDP
http://ift.tt/1ijGFzH
http://ift.tt/1ijGGDW
http://ift.tt/1hkKvxj
http://ift.tt/1ijGF2I
http://ift.tt/1hkKvxn
http://ift.tt/1ijGGUi
http://ift.tt/1ijGGUm
http://ift.tt/1ijGFQc
http://ift.tt/1ijGGUq
http://ift.tt/1ijGGUw
http://ift.tt/1hkKvxB
http://ift.tt/1hkKvNP
http://ift.tt/1ijGFQe
http://ift.tt/1ijGFQi
http://ift.tt/1ijGFQe

will add more as needs be.

I see this becoming a pattern repeated in any future relationships. I now realise that regardless of how good friends we were in the past, I was not ready for a relationship. Hell I was on anti-ds. That it lasted as long as it did was a miracle. Partially because I went in there just for some casual fun, nothing serious, and then I fell in love…

I still hold quite a few negative beliefs holding me back though, because I feel there's some truth in them.
Also I didn't realise but I'm really just cynical, I spent the second half of my relationship waiting for something to **** up like my parents' marriage did. Since I have a very similar personality to my Dad (except he's now more confident after the divorce 5 years ago) I basically expected the same thing to happe n to me in a future relationship.

TBC

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