The gut and the injury, your thoughts gals?

Ladies, I have a question for you, read the whole thing if you want, or scroll to the bottom for the quick version. When we got married I did a lot of physical work and was in decent shape. I've always been huge, I have a large frame and was a 6'-2" 223# freshman in high school that rode a bicycle everywhere and didn't have zip for fat on me. It was funny because I'd get an occasion senior girl that would hit on me, and no one ever duct taped me to my locker lol:) I got married about the time things really started to go downhill in our locale, housing got really expensive and job opportunities started to wane, and I found myself working my full time job and a busienss selling shipping and installing things(also physical) on evenings and weekends trying to get ahead of the finances and get us a home. I had a high metabolism and pretty much ate everything and whatever I wanted and never had a problem with weight. The result, almost predictably looking back, was some occasional lower back pain which turned into more back pain which turned into all the time back pain and sleeplessness. When I went in to have it x-rayed the doctor was shocked, he said it looked like a 60 year olds back and I'm 31. The lowest disc was squished to about 30% of it's original thickness and kinked my spine to the right, the two above it are herniated. Because this disc is so thin, the facets in my lower back grate against each other and inflame the whole area. It gets sore easily and my lower back actually gets hot to the touch when inflamed, which then agitates some nerves and makes my leg get this funny bone feeling shooting down it that gets worse the longer I "push it". I was given a light duty work letter from there on and underwent some steroid injections, and more recently had the nerves burned in the facet area which provided some relief. It's not "bad enough" where insurance will cover spinal fusion, that's what I was really hoping for as I'd heard people having fusion and being back skiing, mountain biking, dirt biking, and bowling afterwards...all things I used to do. I drove forklifts and trucks for the fabricator for awhile and ended up getting a job in management with my prior business management experience and have been there ever since. The problem, I now have a gut that won't go away, I'm about 265#'s now. It's not bad, I can still see my ****, but it's not good either. I've cut my eating way down, coffee for breakfast, whatever for lunch, and light dinners like soup salad and fruit, and it doesn't matter. If I grab a shovel, hold a kid for too long, weed-eat the yard, or do anything repetitive my back gets inflamed in minutes and that feeling that shoots down my leg tells me that's it for the day. My wife is using it as an excuse to avoid sex saying I'm not attractive or sexy anymore. I try my best to keep up/catch up with yard work and maintenance on everything but with the pain everything takes a long time. My wife will scold me like I'm lazy and am using my back pain as an excuse and it's totally not true. I think this is BS. If you love someone you don't do this. My co-worker's wife had a stroke at 42 and lost a lot of her mobility and has gone from 110#'s to 160. He still loves her and they still have sex. I've about had it and if you read my other thread we're going to MC and have been talking D. Sorry for the drawn out super detailed post......so the question ladies....where do you stand if such an event were to happen to your hubby where he gains weight via physical limitations from an accident, injury, stroke, etc? Are you out the door to the next guys with a 6-pack or are you in it for the long haul?

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