Random Thoughts Rant

Sitting here at work at 6:40AM and just wanted to make a few notes to post as the thoughts are running around in my feeble mind. I actually don't even expect a reply. Although I try and judge people individually, there are some I simply have little use for. As someone who has faith, that is a terrible thing to say but I somehow cannot escape my own humanity. My list is small- pedophiles, men who hit women & children, and betrayers. Now, that said, my closest friend is a lifelong sex addict and has betrayed all 3 of his wives. I really took him to task for it and it has dampened our friendship, but we have been friends since age 11. I am working with him to overcome his addictions. But is it so hard to trust people like that. And speaking of trust (and faith), often I see people talk of rebuilding trust via checking up and accountability. I find that so sad and shortsighted. To me trust & faith means I know in both my heart and mind that my spouse can be 100% trusted in any and all circumstances to uphold our relationship. They guy who tries to subtly worm his way into her emotions with emails… is rebuffed and told to get a life. That woman who just wants to talk is told to find someone else. That old HS chum of the opposite sex who found you on FB is either not 'friended' or kept on a short leash. They never, never place themselves in a compromising position or try to play with fire thinking they won't get burned… They simply don't flirt with people outside their marriage. At all. They may talk and joke a bit, but for the respect of their marriage and their spouse they have sharply defined limits and stick to them with sincerity. That's trust & faith- not calling in every hour to let you know where they are. That's why trust & faith cannot be rebuilt after betrayers have shown who they are at their core. Second chances. God bless people who give second chances! I mean, I gave 2 second chances and left after the third betrayal (that I know of). The Old Testament of the Bible is the foundation for almost all cannons of law throughout history. Whether you are a believe in God or not, it is an inescapable fact that the sagacity and common sense within has been patterned for centuries. So then why does the OT state that adultery is a capital offense? Akin to murder? Because of the way it destroys people's lives and because of the type of people who betray. When a person goes before a jury for murder and is convicted, how often does the judge say, "I hereby give you a second chance?" So for those of you who obtain second chances, it is a gift beyond measure and you should do anything and everything within your power to make it work. One last thought and then my rant is done. There are a few (and one in particular) here who advocate for betraying and defend it pretty strongly, albeit slyly. But your cleverness is actually laughed at. I pretty much ignore such posts and threads for the most part but occasionally send a post or two to keep things balanced. OK, back to work.

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