| Hi there, new to this forum...thought I have read a few threads of here numerous times over the past few months. I'd really like an outsider's view on my current situation, and I would be very appreciative of any help or opinions. Basically, I've been dating this girl for about two weeks...we've done all the standard stuff drinks, cinema, night club etc. She told me she liked me and I told her I liked her and we both agreed that we were dating. We watched a film at mine one night and we had our first kiss (which i thought went really well) anyway, later that night I text her saying how I had enjoyed our day together for her to respond with "Im really confused after our kiss about how I feel and just want to be friends". I was slightly gutted as I quite liked her but it wern't the end of the world. The next day she text's me saying she's really sorry about what she said and she wants to carry on seeing me but at a slow place, which i was happy to do so. So, a few days later she goes on a family holiday to Ireland, we carry on texting pretty much all day everyday and one night she text me saying that she wants to be my girlfriend, I probably should have thought more about it but I snapped at the chance a nd asked her out. If your reading this your probably thinking, "jeeze this girl does like to change her mind" and I felt exactly the same, kinda felt like I was on edge. So, cut to a few days later (the day before she flies home) she texts me saying that she's going to be pretty busy over the next 2 weeks and that she wont be able to see me hardly, I didn't kick up a fuss as I know she has a load of uni work to do....but I at least thought I'd see her once or twice. The rest of the day went onto us just talking about this relationship and her doubting that it will work (she instigated me asking her our a few days previous which she acknowledged). I tried to re assure her about her doubts by telling her I'm not a needy person and im not the sort of guy who needs to see her day in day out as I like my own space. She then decides that she wants to go back to dating, which I wasn't too sure about. One thing she did keep mentioning even back when we was dating was how she is kinda scared of commitment and the pressure it brings, due to previous relationships going wrong...so back to the day before she flies home. She keeps saying how she wishes I knew what was going on in her head, and I said I wish that I did. So she text me a massive text about something which i wont repeat on here, but something happened to her a while back and put it this way....I understood straight away. She text me today, saying she really likes and all this jazz...she's scared about carrying on as this thing she told me about always ruins her relationships around 3 months in and she's scared that if that happens to us, she will lose me as a friend (which ive re assured her it wont). She's also scared if she lets me go that Ill find someone else and she'l regret doing it. So, she said she decided that she wants to forget everything thats gone on (all the drama) and go back to the beginning and take it from there. What does this sound like to you guys? Have I been friend zoned? | |||
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