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I feel alone on TSR and IRL

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I feel like no one wants to talk to me and it makes me feel sad

even on TSR people don't talk to me that much

I'm really sociable and I don't lack any confidence but it's just the fact that no one wants to speak to me that just confuses me

Am I the only one who feels lonely on TSR?:(

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Are you a virgin?

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Saw a comment earlier implying that the majority of TSR users are virgins... so made this poll to provide me with stats to fight back. :D

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Pregnant?

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Hi

I am really freaking out and need some help. I last had my period on the 3rd of May and only had sex once after. This was on the 27th of May it was unprotected and he did not cum inside of me. I have still not had my period since and am extremely worried?


Thanks for the help

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New messenger app, missed called my crush by accident ??

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Well the new facebook app for messenger came out I downloaded it and my crush was on there and I saw her name but I was supposed ring my mate, however I rang her by accident but pretty quickly put it down. Now on her screen it shows a missed call from me.

This makes it really awkward because she was talking to me a bit less on fb, she didnt reply to one of my messages, I think she was busy. But if she wasnt busy she probably isnt interested, so it kind of looks like me as being some desperate guy persisting her :S.

Right now has my chance gone with her, like im looking really needy if she's not interested. How can I make it look a little less awkward leave it ? Or tell her it was accident ? And has my chance possibly gone ?

Secondly am I blowing this thing out of proportion ? I just dont want to look desperate.

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Girls (and gay boys): have you ever just dreamed of marrying well...

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...so all of your problems and financial woes just fade away and you can live the remainder of your life in comfort?

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Falling out of love

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So, I been in love, and she said the same, and been dumped. And I've ended a relationship where she said felt strongly, but I was never really in love. So I've never experienced my feelings changing. What happens?

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Will he be dissappointed?

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Heeey
basically, I met this guy a few weeks ago when I was out. We have spoken quite a bit since and he is pretty up for meeting up. He is also pretty up for me going home with him after a night out again and has been very open about this.
however, will he be disappointed if we get into a situation and he realises that I'm a virgin?
i can be a bit carefree when I'm drunk, though I'm not particularly bothered when I loose it. In some ways id like to before I go to uni in September.. Kind of embarrasses me that i havnt done very much for a lonngg time..

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Good Dad??

I do things like Daddy/Daughter dances, go to my girl's dance classes, take my girls to their gymnastics practices. I take them out to do things. My wife does these things as well with our girls.

Lately, I keep hearing "you are such a great dad!" I am not trying to be condescending, but isn't this what Dad's are supposed to do. There is nothing "great" about spending time with your kids. I figured that it should just be considered normal.

Has our world become so busy that a dad doing things with/for his kids is the mark of being an exception? My parents were not involved with my life much growing up. I never wanted my kids to experience that. But, I don't feel like I do anything extraordinary.

I guess, I just really wonder if we, as a society, have become so busy that doing just the normal things in life has become rare. If that has become the case, what does our society need to do to correct the problem?

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Ladies, did I handle the situation okay?

Mrs.CuddleBug and I have a cat who is about 13 to 14 years old now. She usually never gets sick, is lean and is still very active.

A day ago, our cat couldn't keep her food down and puked up whenever she ate. She does get hairballs like all cats do and occasionally does puke up.

That Saturday, I was up early, went to the nursery across town, got some lilac's, dug the big holes (nasty rocks and roots), planted, pruned and cleaned up everything (5 hours). Then I grocery shopped, picked up a package from UPS, got toilet handle assemblies to fix both toilets, and recycled. (2 hours). During this time, Mrs.CuddleBug is crying, very upset about our cat being sick, what should I do? I told her, if you feel she is that sick, take her to the vet. 1.5 hours later, she is still here, crying, what should I do? I am very tired at this point and again I tell her, take our cat to the vet!!! She finally does this but gets mad at me for not taking the cat myself or going with her. Yet I had 7 hours of chores and errands to do on my day off and she had basically nothing to do on her day off.

See, Mrs.CuddleBug is a very emotionally sensitive woman, were as I am not a very emotional guy. Her super sensitive emotions totally overwhelm me and I go crazy. I told her, next time, something like this happens, I will give her a long hug, listen a bit and leave her be because if she transfers all this onto me, I go crazy and she feels great but I get no sex multiple times to then get that out of my system. See?


How could I or should I of handled this better?


Oh, I've fed the cat this morning a little bit and now some more and no puking it up, but she is tired and has slept a lot. Probably just sick but we are taking her to get her teeth done and get blood work done.

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Moving to start over?

Basic background: Lived in large metro area for most of my life (@20 years). During that time entered into a mentally abusive and socially isolating relationship and subsequent marriage (obviously I didn't realize that at the time). Following the marriage I moved with him for his work to another state that I hated and he continued to make it difficult for me socially. We eventually divorced and it was not amicable (see other threads). Now I have moved home and am living again with my somewhat unsupportive family. My extended family is here as are the maybe 3 friends who I kept in touch with during this whole mess. My ex has tons of friends here (as they are the only ones he really allowed me to socialize with) and I am constantly terrified of running into them.

So here are my issues: while I am in a large area with many people, the metro area I am in is known for not being friendly and being very cliquey; I am ashamed that I lived here for so long yet have so little left here after what has happened ( I did have a normal social life and life in general pre-relationship); several times when I have attended a meetup or club I have had people be rude to me once they realize I am from here originally, and honestly I love the area-I just don't love trying to start over here (I met a another woman at a divorce support group and she had moved in the middle of her divorce for work to here and she had been terrified about making friends as well as she is extremely shy but she now has this massive group of friends but she feels that she only has that because she is new here-if she had stayed in her original location she'd be in my boat-although due to shyness not social isolation.)

So I have strongly been considering moving so I can start over with a clean slate. But it almost makes me feel like because of how things happened I am letting him "win" by not being able to start over in our hometown or that I am running away from my problems, I would again be leaving the few friends and family, and moving does not ensure that my past does not catch up with me or that I will succeed where I move. I do wish I could just make things work here.

I really just don't know what to do... I am very unhappy here but have thought about giving myself a year or two to try and reacclimate and then move. I feel if I try and move right away that if I have to come back I will still not have anything here and I cannot financially afford it right now.

Does anyone have any experience with this? Either moving again after a divorce so that they can have a clean slate or having dealt with a socially isolating relationship (and no I cannot reconnect with friends from my past. He made sure of it). I am only in my late 20s and feel like I am missing out on having a normal life :/

The few people I have available to me to ask have been very split on their opinions so TAM people any ideas? pros and cons?

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Need book recommendation about Marriage

Hey there -

I have seen many book recommendations about coping with infidelity or being strong and setting boundaries but those do not seem to target what kind of person I am or what I am dealing with inside my marriage so I am looking for some other options.

Here's my story in a nutshell ... Been with my Husband 10 years, married 5. 2 children and he is a wonderful Husband and hard working Father, no major issues but porn and online sites where he exchanged naked photos. No in person cheating has ever occured. (I'm crazy and have interrogated and investigated until I was 100% positive, plus we've done counsling)

So, after A LOT of talking and work on our marriage for the last year even after all the times he has promised things I have come to a conclusion that he WILL NOT and NEVER WILL give up online porn.
We have sex every other day on the dot but if I work 2 nights in a row he cannot control the urge (which I think is bull**** but how can I divorce him over that, that seems ridiclous considering all the other great things about him)

I have done a lot of research on porn and am pretty sure it's not about me being un-desirable or about him building emotional connections. Also he is only 26 so maybe he is too young to grow out of this phase .... I dont know.
Anyway, I need to learn to lower my standards in this area and accept that it is not about me and not let it affect our life, marriage and my self-esteem?
Any recommendations for a book about this?

Thanks ya'll!

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Pets....

So, this may not seem like a big to some who have kids, but for me who does not, our pets are my kids. We have 2 dogs and I moved out of the house into an apartment. We decided I would take the dogs but I was going to need some time to get them. Now he is having them stay at his girlfriends and I'm so angry. I just needed to vent. Another broken promise on his part.
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13 yo daughter hated by female peers for beauty, academics

My very blessed daughter is being ostracized by a group of former friends now that boys are a factor. Good times at my house. Apparently being a teenage girl is a hand full.

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Starting a marriage

I was thinking about finances today, and I was curious, when you and your spouse got married (first marriages for those of you in their 2nd or 3rd), how much money did you have to your name? Did you have any debt accumulated?

Furthermore, how do you think that financial state affected your marriage?

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is it ok to go and see the X Men movie with a girl who isnt your girlfriend

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becuase you g/f doesnt like that sort of film, but your friend is really into marvel and dc comics and the movies

use the Poll

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