Hey there -
I have seen many book recommendations about coping with infidelity or being strong and setting boundaries but those do not seem to target what kind of person I am or what I am dealing with inside my marriage so I am looking for some other options.
Here's my story in a nutshell ... Been with my Husband 10 years, married 5. 2 children and he is a wonderful Husband and hard working Father, no major issues but porn and online sites where he exchanged naked photos. No in person cheating has ever occured. (I'm crazy and have interrogated and investigated until I was 100% positive, plus we've done counsling)
So, after A LOT of talking and work on our marriage for the last year even after all the times he has promised things I have come to a conclusion that he WILL NOT and NEVER WILL give up online porn.
We have sex every other day on the dot but if I work 2 nights in a row he cannot control the urge (which I think is bull**** but how can I divorce him over that, that seems ridiclous considering all the other great things about him)
I have done a lot of research on porn and am pretty sure it's not about me being un-desirable or about him building emotional connections. Also he is only 26 so maybe he is too young to grow out of this phase .... I dont know.
Anyway, I need to learn to lower my standards in this area and accept that it is not about me and not let it affect our life, marriage and my self-esteem?
Any recommendations for a book about this?
Thanks ya'll!
I have seen many book recommendations about coping with infidelity or being strong and setting boundaries but those do not seem to target what kind of person I am or what I am dealing with inside my marriage so I am looking for some other options.
Here's my story in a nutshell ... Been with my Husband 10 years, married 5. 2 children and he is a wonderful Husband and hard working Father, no major issues but porn and online sites where he exchanged naked photos. No in person cheating has ever occured. (I'm crazy and have interrogated and investigated until I was 100% positive, plus we've done counsling)
So, after A LOT of talking and work on our marriage for the last year even after all the times he has promised things I have come to a conclusion that he WILL NOT and NEVER WILL give up online porn.
We have sex every other day on the dot but if I work 2 nights in a row he cannot control the urge (which I think is bull**** but how can I divorce him over that, that seems ridiclous considering all the other great things about him)
I have done a lot of research on porn and am pretty sure it's not about me being un-desirable or about him building emotional connections. Also he is only 26 so maybe he is too young to grow out of this phase .... I dont know.
Anyway, I need to learn to lower my standards in this area and accept that it is not about me and not let it affect our life, marriage and my self-esteem?
Any recommendations for a book about this?
Thanks ya'll!
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