Sure plenty struggle with poor communication but it is nowhere near as rampant as so many claim.
Poor communication is the "go to" default excuse for a lack of results solving problems.
When desired results are not realized, after communicating clearly with a spouse, those lack of results get blamed on poor communication so frequently it's absurd.
The blame for a lack of results should be placed on a spouse choosing to fully maintain their own preferences despite their spouses requests.
When a given issue is clearly communicated and then blown off, that is not a communication issue with the attribute that it was not clear enough.
Rather it is a spouses choice to maintain the status quo.
The indicator the blame is at the wrong door step is when someone is asking "how can I get my spouse to understand?"
Typically they do understand and choose to not care.
A better question is "how to I get them to care enough to change ?" (when perhaps they don't want to)
If you are going round and round and round repeating yourself without results, it isn't a failure to communicate. It's battling motivation.
Poor communication is the "go to" default excuse for a lack of results solving problems.
When desired results are not realized, after communicating clearly with a spouse, those lack of results get blamed on poor communication so frequently it's absurd.
The blame for a lack of results should be placed on a spouse choosing to fully maintain their own preferences despite their spouses requests.
When a given issue is clearly communicated and then blown off, that is not a communication issue with the attribute that it was not clear enough.
Rather it is a spouses choice to maintain the status quo.
The indicator the blame is at the wrong door step is when someone is asking "how can I get my spouse to understand?"
Typically they do understand and choose to not care.
A better question is "how to I get them to care enough to change ?" (when perhaps they don't want to)
If you are going round and round and round repeating yourself without results, it isn't a failure to communicate. It's battling motivation.
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