My boyfriend hates drinking and its ruining our relationship

Thank you in advance to anyone who bothers to read this!!

I've been with my boyfriend for about 15 months now, and we have a great relationship which we both want to be long term but he hates me drinking at parties or when I'm out with my friends. Just to clarify I don't drink that much, its not a problem I drink socially at gatherings/parties but know my limits and have never even been sick or done anything really stupid when drinking.

This has been going on for about a year now, and I have stopped drinking a few times to try and help him but it never seemed to get better. In November we were going to a friends party, and he didn't think I would be drinking because apparently I had promised him I wouldn't which I hadn't and when he saw me drinking he left and when I went after him he was shouting and getting upset, basically didn't want me to be with him and said it was over so I went back to the party and got his friends to go and check on him.

We were broken up for about a month (we break up quite a lot over this but for no more than a few days to a week usually) and I really missed him and he missed me, and we ended up getting back together on the condition that he went to the doctors to try and sort this out and I stopped in the mean time. I also have been keeping it a secret from my friends as they all dislike him and he doesn't like them either because of all this, I hate doing it but I didn't want to look like an idiot for the millionth time if he messed up again.

A month and a half on I haven't been drinking, but he still hasn't gone to the doctors and is saying its too hard. I've tried to reassure him etc but he wont go. We had a long talk about it on Friday because I was upset about it and just knowing he will break up with me if I drink doesn't make me feel loved or anything. My friend had a small gathering yesterday for her 18th which I went to and had a few drinks because he said he would try to deal with it for me, and try to put me first. When I got home last night he asked if I'd stopped and I said I hadn't and he is now really upset, saying I have broken my promise, don't love him etc, and now he's ignoring me.

I really don't know what to do I love him and want to be with him but I hate all of this, and don't know if he will ever move forward, but its so hard to let go and give up because the apart from this our relationship is so good. Any advice would be really appreciated, thank you :)

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Hi guys.
I would appreciate some feedback/ advice on my current situation as I am I'm sitting here completely bewildered and lost.

My story started like most stories. Graduated from college, fell in love, got married, had a baby.

All of this happened with in 4 years and we have been married for 3 years.

My husband is a serial online cheater. Every single time I would find out he would beg me and cry his eyes out and silly me always forgave him.
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Now this is the man that has 3 course meal waiting for him after work almost every night and I spend 3 hours cleaning my house everyday.
Needless to say I feel small, low, useless. Here is the kicker I am a stay at home mum and I PAY ALL THE BILLS.

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2 what should I do next

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* Damaging my property by placing it outdoors for two months where it was exposed to sun, wind, dirt, rain and snow. Not salvageable.

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* Parts for the vehicle may have been purchased one month prior to filing for divorce, using my ex's credit card, of which I am not a co-owner of the account nor was I EVER permitted to use.

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Keeps the car.

Requires I pay for half a credit card debt, of which proof and amount have not been provided.

Refuses to pay child support agreed upon in the "Timesharing and Support" Hearing in December.

Destroyed property belonging to me, and now asks that I pay for the disposal of such property.

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I MUST make it aware that my Attorney IS working with us on payment arrangements... Thus I feel I may be biting the hand that feeds me by voicing my concerns...

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