Im 24 and she is 23. Met WW in college 3 months pregnant 4 and a half years ago. Decided to get into a relationship with her anyways (stupid decision). We soon moved in together.. her baby daddy was a drug abuser so she begged me to sign the birth certificate so she can lie to him about the baby not being his. Stupid me signed it.. decided to join the military and get married to her although I still loved my ex girlfriend at the time. She found out I still loved her and wrote a letter to her after we were married. She forgave me but never forgot. Fast forward... we had twins of our own. Wasn't the best father or husband because I wanted to get a promotion to bring more income to the home. Fast forward another year to last October. She decides she wants a job because she is lonely and wants to get out of the house. I hesitate because it would be a night job and we wouldn't see each other. We agree to only 4 months so we can erase some debt. I was going to school and work full time at the time. Life begins to be stressful due to never seeing her and growing apart. In November she begins to go out with friends wife to clubs. Friend says the stupidest advice and tells me to give her an ultimatum either our marriage or her job. She becomes depressed. Early December we have multiple arguments. She goes to the club and kisses my ex friend but says she was drunk although I read that she knew about it in her journal. She begins to go into fog mode starting to talk to one of her friends having an ea while fantasizing about getting with pos ex friend. She begins to hang around 19 yr old single friend more and more. She meets OM at work and begins to talk to him. Don't really know how much she talked to him before the pa started but her PA started new years. Other friend says she texted ex pos friend saying how she wanted to have set with him. I guess he panicked and backed off or felt guilty so he told other friend. I start to panic a nd begin MC with chaplain. She begins to cry and say how awful our marriage is and how it was a sham. Starts to blame shift me. Chaplain recommend marriage get away on valentines day. I fly her mom here to help watch the kids. While also buying her sister a ticket for a b day surprise. DAY was valentines day where I found text dirty text and explicit pics. I confront her but she denies it. Then she decides to stay the night over his house while her mom is super angry. I try to expose to everyone including her work but her mom advises me not to press further (stupid mistake on my part because I should have got them both fired). The next 3 months I continue to make stupid mistakes begging pleading crying etc. She becomes more and more loyal to OM even though he continues to tell her she is just see to him. She even got a matchibg tattoo on her arm with him. Finally in may I kick her to her mom's house and she ends up taking the kids due to child care issues for me. In early J une she begins to tell me how she wants to work things out and how she made a horrible mistake. Stupid me accepts and tells her that she needs to cut all ties if she wants to make it work. Next week she demands I file for divorce and she ends up coming up here to see her OM while leaving my children with her mom. I end up filing for dissolution divorce. After she left I did the immediate 180 on her. She continued to call me a pos dad even though I talk to my kids at least 4 days a week. I began to work out and hang out with friends but for some reason I still love her and want to work things out with her. I know I need to move on but I feel stuck... ugh she is still occasionally talking to OM even though everyone says he is a pos loser.
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