I will try to summarize, but it seems like there is so much to say because the details make such a diffrence.
Married 16 years now, together for almost 20.
My husband cheated, while on his last deployment, with a female soldier.
He left me, and our 3 children, June 2014, supposedly because he got her pregnant.
He came home after she supposedly miscarried (details I have learned cause me to doubt she was ever actually pregnant) at the very end of July 2104.
A month later he started seeing her again. I had only strongly suspected this for months, until I caught him at her house just over a month ago and he finally admitted some.
He moved into her place a few days later.
We now have 4 children, our 4th was born in April, and I do not really know how I should handle the situation. (4th was conceived shortly after he returned home last July, when I believed things would be OK. Regardless of anyone's opinion of the wisdom of having another child, we now have 4 daughters.)
As of right now, he claims to want divorce, but has not yet filed legal separation.
I believe this is just the tip of the iceburg (he has a history of chatting online and watching porn when he thought I was asleep - and he was drunk).
I am not sure whether I have it in me to try again.
So far, he is in the fantasia-like stage of his affair. He has not stated the desire to come back. I believe he will, eventually, because - if nothing else - he had a really cushy home life.
I am a Bible-believing Christian, and that plays a strong role in my convictions.
I am simply wondering what kind of child support and alimony I can expect to recieve if he does follow through and divorce me. There is nothing I can do to change his mind or convince him he is doing wrong. so all I can do is try to have a realistic idea of what I can expect.
I am aware of the implications of what he has done, but I don't think he is. He seems to believe he can have a quick, easy, quiet, and painless divorce process.
Any advice is appreciated.
Married 16 years now, together for almost 20.
My husband cheated, while on his last deployment, with a female soldier.
He left me, and our 3 children, June 2014, supposedly because he got her pregnant.
He came home after she supposedly miscarried (details I have learned cause me to doubt she was ever actually pregnant) at the very end of July 2104.
A month later he started seeing her again. I had only strongly suspected this for months, until I caught him at her house just over a month ago and he finally admitted some.
He moved into her place a few days later.
We now have 4 children, our 4th was born in April, and I do not really know how I should handle the situation. (4th was conceived shortly after he returned home last July, when I believed things would be OK. Regardless of anyone's opinion of the wisdom of having another child, we now have 4 daughters.)
As of right now, he claims to want divorce, but has not yet filed legal separation.
I believe this is just the tip of the iceburg (he has a history of chatting online and watching porn when he thought I was asleep - and he was drunk).
I am not sure whether I have it in me to try again.
So far, he is in the fantasia-like stage of his affair. He has not stated the desire to come back. I believe he will, eventually, because - if nothing else - he had a really cushy home life.
I am a Bible-believing Christian, and that plays a strong role in my convictions.
I am simply wondering what kind of child support and alimony I can expect to recieve if he does follow through and divorce me. There is nothing I can do to change his mind or convince him he is doing wrong. so all I can do is try to have a realistic idea of what I can expect.
I am aware of the implications of what he has done, but I don't think he is. He seems to believe he can have a quick, easy, quiet, and painless divorce process.
Any advice is appreciated.
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