My husband is an amazing man! He is very intelligent, skilled in SO many areas, handsome, strong, loving, caring, ... . He left his home country/family/friends for me and gave up his old job. He started to learn a new language (of my home country). He started to help my family out a LOT.
We had our bad times, as well. The worst was when last year my father died. This brought a big depression into the whole family. My father was a wonderful person, a great family man, very praised in his job... .
Well, now we are at a point, where we just "exist" and not live anymore.
We have big goals. Leave the country and move to a nice new place. Start a new business together. Make good money, so we can build an own home. Travel a lot. Be happy!
The reality though looks like this: Sex maybe 2x/month. Husband playing online games 24/7. No sports anymore. No making money. No building up anything. No healthy living. No finishing his driver's license renewal for here, so we can get away. No motivation at all. I don't know anymore what to do. I have communicated a lot and theoretically he understand me and we seem to have the same understanding, but practical nothing changes. I struggle a LOT with keeping my own motivation alive/ building it up again, all by myself.
I wish so much we would both work towards our goals. But I just don't know anymore how to motivate him. I see him sit there every day and night and just waste all his talent and brain and life. I know there is nothing that he could not do, if only he would start to do it.
Now when I say something he feels pushed, nagged, ordered around.
What can I do to motivate my husband? :(
We had our bad times, as well. The worst was when last year my father died. This brought a big depression into the whole family. My father was a wonderful person, a great family man, very praised in his job... .
Well, now we are at a point, where we just "exist" and not live anymore.
We have big goals. Leave the country and move to a nice new place. Start a new business together. Make good money, so we can build an own home. Travel a lot. Be happy!
The reality though looks like this: Sex maybe 2x/month. Husband playing online games 24/7. No sports anymore. No making money. No building up anything. No healthy living. No finishing his driver's license renewal for here, so we can get away. No motivation at all. I don't know anymore what to do. I have communicated a lot and theoretically he understand me and we seem to have the same understanding, but practical nothing changes. I struggle a LOT with keeping my own motivation alive/ building it up again, all by myself.
I wish so much we would both work towards our goals. But I just don't know anymore how to motivate him. I see him sit there every day and night and just waste all his talent and brain and life. I know there is nothing that he could not do, if only he would start to do it.
Now when I say something he feels pushed, nagged, ordered around.
What can I do to motivate my husband? :(
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