I was trying to think of some subtler way to ask this, but I couldn't think of a good way to do this, so forget being subtle.
For a quick recap:
Dad cheated on mom
She figured out, gave second chance (unknown to me) which he faked a R
She filed,
He asked me to beg her for a second I chance
I...kinda went along with it
Failed, she became distant with me
Got in fist fights with dad
They divorced, both moved, new life. And ostracized by both parents at this point.
Then around this time last year:
Dad asked me to be best man
I was torn, asked the forum, couldn't get a straight answer, and ended up being the first man. Regret it greatly.
Dad and I got in a fight a few months back. We aren't talking anymore.
Mom has been getting better compared to where she was. She got involved with church, stopped being bitter about dad, has friends, is going out with her friends, and is living a better life.
I am happy for her. I didn't want to see her destroyed by this. And I think she is finally healing.
But she doesn't really treat me like a son. I feel like she was just slowly cutting me out of her life.
Today, she told me that my grandparents don't want me coming to Thanksgiving. Since I was the best man in my dad's wedding, they don't want me in their house.
So...I am now uninvited to Thanksgiving on my mom's side of the family.
And because of my behavior at the wedding, and the strained relationship with my dad, I doubt I'll be invited to that Thanksgiving dinner.
So what happens?
Any BS ever cut their kids out of their life? To try and heal? Or any WS ever do that?
I always thought that at least one of the spouses would want to have the kids.
Instead, mom has her little baby, my brother.
Dad has his little girl, my sister.
And I am left feeling like the last pick for kickball in gym, with the two teams arguing which gets stuck with me.
For a quick recap:
Dad cheated on mom
She figured out, gave second chance (unknown to me) which he faked a R
She filed,
He asked me to beg her for a second I chance
I...kinda went along with it
Failed, she became distant with me
Got in fist fights with dad
They divorced, both moved, new life. And ostracized by both parents at this point.
Then around this time last year:
Dad asked me to be best man
I was torn, asked the forum, couldn't get a straight answer, and ended up being the first man. Regret it greatly.
Dad and I got in a fight a few months back. We aren't talking anymore.
Mom has been getting better compared to where she was. She got involved with church, stopped being bitter about dad, has friends, is going out with her friends, and is living a better life.
I am happy for her. I didn't want to see her destroyed by this. And I think she is finally healing.
But she doesn't really treat me like a son. I feel like she was just slowly cutting me out of her life.
Today, she told me that my grandparents don't want me coming to Thanksgiving. Since I was the best man in my dad's wedding, they don't want me in their house.
So...I am now uninvited to Thanksgiving on my mom's side of the family.
And because of my behavior at the wedding, and the strained relationship with my dad, I doubt I'll be invited to that Thanksgiving dinner.
So what happens?
Any BS ever cut their kids out of their life? To try and heal? Or any WS ever do that?
I always thought that at least one of the spouses would want to have the kids.
Instead, mom has her little baby, my brother.
Dad has his little girl, my sister.
And I am left feeling like the last pick for kickball in gym, with the two teams arguing which gets stuck with me.
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