I am recently divorced. Going into my marriage I thought I made a good choice.
Her parents were married for 50 years. She was a hard worker. Had girlfriends. Did not drink, smoke, never did drugs etc.
However she seemingly did to me what happens on here quite often, and what has just happened to some of my real life friends. She wanted out , and found another man, because she was not "happy".
When we met she loved the idea of wanting to be a stay at home mom. Once she was she hated it. Then she worked part time. Hated it. When I met her she hated being single and working full time. My point is that she was really never "happy", and I was in the position to "make her happy" which apparently I failed at.
She also never communicated her unhappiness to me. She just slowly drifted away into Facebook and social media until her affair occurred.
As for me, I was extremely stable. Great provider. Great father. But that wasn't enough. She needs some sort of either drama/exciting love/extreme amount of attention that is not really sustainable.
When we date does anyone have ideas of what to look for that might be a red flag?
The only thing I can think of with her is how she never had any interests or hobbies of her own. In a way, if she was bored or feeling empty, it could only have been my fault.
How do people find a woman who views you as a partner, and not the guy who is 100 percent responsible for her happiness?
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Her parents were married for 50 years. She was a hard worker. Had girlfriends. Did not drink, smoke, never did drugs etc.
However she seemingly did to me what happens on here quite often, and what has just happened to some of my real life friends. She wanted out , and found another man, because she was not "happy".
When we met she loved the idea of wanting to be a stay at home mom. Once she was she hated it. Then she worked part time. Hated it. When I met her she hated being single and working full time. My point is that she was really never "happy", and I was in the position to "make her happy" which apparently I failed at.
She also never communicated her unhappiness to me. She just slowly drifted away into Facebook and social media until her affair occurred.
As for me, I was extremely stable. Great provider. Great father. But that wasn't enough. She needs some sort of either drama/exciting love/extreme amount of attention that is not really sustainable.
When we date does anyone have ideas of what to look for that might be a red flag?
The only thing I can think of with her is how she never had any interests or hobbies of her own. In a way, if she was bored or feeling empty, it could only have been my fault.
How do people find a woman who views you as a partner, and not the guy who is 100 percent responsible for her happiness?
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