Any Advice??

I am 32 and my husband is 28 and we have been together for 6 years with six children(one together).We have had our ups and downs in our marriage and last year we separated and almost divorced then he started a emotional relationship with a woman. We decided to give it one last chance and he cut things off and became very open with all resources to gain trust and to make sure i knew he wasn't straying and that it ended with her. Since then though things have been great as far as him being loving and wanting to be around me but one thing which has been a issue for awhile and thats our sex life. My husband works at a trash company and works long hours and i totally get that but I feel like if i want sex then i have to be scheduled in or i have to force him to do it at times. Right now we do it a couple times a week and its usually on the weekend and its never spontaneous and i certainly don't feel passion its just sex to get him off at that point.I have ta lked to him and he just gets very defenseless and says he's tired and sore all the time and we have kids so we can't have it all the time cause the only time is at night to do anything. My husband is very physically fit and goes to the gym 6 days a week and I just feel like he can set time for that but not me.It just makes me think really crappy of myself cause i feel like i shouldn't have to beg and feel bad cause i want my husband cause i wish he would want me the same. We do have kids and i understand that point but they are a lot older and not always around to even use that as a excuse in my opinion.I don't know what to do or how to talk to him without him feeling like I'm attacking him or saying that our marriage sucks cause thats how he says he feels but this is really a issue for me and I think more so cause of the past with what happened when we were separated.He has tried to boost his sex drive with pills but once again its usually when he wants sex and is ready not when i want it. Most would be like omg you get it more then me a week but like i said when it does happen its when he wants and needs it at that point and their is no passion it just becomes sex.Any Advice?

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