So my wife is on the verge of wanting a divorce, I've completely eroded her trust by lying about finances…but not in a lie that I'm going out spending on booze or gambling, or even just going to the pub with my friends, its purely that I'm trying to make ends meet month to month…
My wife works really hard, has 2 businesses, which although takes up a lot of her time, doesn't provide a regular wage. Therefore, it's left to my wage to cover everything, debts, mortgage, bills, spends, food shopping, petrol, taking our 3 young kids out, etc…
Last year, I arranged with the mortgage company (without telling my wife) to make a reduced payment on the mortgage to free up a bit of cash for Christmas…the bank said that this would be fine, but then sent a letter a month later stating that we were in arrears, and the wife hit the roof…understandably I suppose, as I'd lied about it and tried to blame the bank and said I'd sort it, but she'd already spoken to them and knew exactly what I had done…
As background, my wife has a very low stress threshold, and regularly has bouts of "narkiness" especially during the time of the month…I'm forever getting blamed for things out of my control, and if things don't go right, she can start to rage at me…this happens quite regularly, and its very draining, so by default I usually take the path of least resistance…
Currently, we are just about getting by month to month, any wages she receives are a bonus at the moment, but recently, things have been getting tight…she's always asking me if we are ok for money, and not wanting to worry her, I just say "we're fine"…bar a couple of late payments over the last year, we are, just about, keeping our heads above water…
Recently, the bank balance has been getting low, and the upshot is that there wasn't enough money to make a payment recently, so rather than worry my wife, I told her we were fine for cash, and I contacted a friend and asked him to lend me some cash until I get paid next month…my wife found the text on my phone, and hit the roof, saying I'd eroded all trust (again) and she wants me gone…I've been sleeping on the couch for the last 3 nights, as I don't want to spend any time I don't have to away from my kids…
Basically, she resents me for lying to her, says I don't support her emotionally or physically, and I'm not the man she married anymore…
I tried to reason and say that I only did it to avoid another argument and to not worry her, but she wasn't having any of it…
Basically, is there any way back for us? I don't want to lose everything we've worked hard for over the years, I don't want to lose out on seeing my kids, and I don't want to lose my wife as despite everything, I love her very much…
My wife works really hard, has 2 businesses, which although takes up a lot of her time, doesn't provide a regular wage. Therefore, it's left to my wage to cover everything, debts, mortgage, bills, spends, food shopping, petrol, taking our 3 young kids out, etc…
Last year, I arranged with the mortgage company (without telling my wife) to make a reduced payment on the mortgage to free up a bit of cash for Christmas…the bank said that this would be fine, but then sent a letter a month later stating that we were in arrears, and the wife hit the roof…understandably I suppose, as I'd lied about it and tried to blame the bank and said I'd sort it, but she'd already spoken to them and knew exactly what I had done…
As background, my wife has a very low stress threshold, and regularly has bouts of "narkiness" especially during the time of the month…I'm forever getting blamed for things out of my control, and if things don't go right, she can start to rage at me…this happens quite regularly, and its very draining, so by default I usually take the path of least resistance…
Currently, we are just about getting by month to month, any wages she receives are a bonus at the moment, but recently, things have been getting tight…she's always asking me if we are ok for money, and not wanting to worry her, I just say "we're fine"…bar a couple of late payments over the last year, we are, just about, keeping our heads above water…
Recently, the bank balance has been getting low, and the upshot is that there wasn't enough money to make a payment recently, so rather than worry my wife, I told her we were fine for cash, and I contacted a friend and asked him to lend me some cash until I get paid next month…my wife found the text on my phone, and hit the roof, saying I'd eroded all trust (again) and she wants me gone…I've been sleeping on the couch for the last 3 nights, as I don't want to spend any time I don't have to away from my kids…
Basically, she resents me for lying to her, says I don't support her emotionally or physically, and I'm not the man she married anymore…
I tried to reason and say that I only did it to avoid another argument and to not worry her, but she wasn't having any of it…
Basically, is there any way back for us? I don't want to lose everything we've worked hard for over the years, I don't want to lose out on seeing my kids, and I don't want to lose my wife as despite everything, I love her very much…
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