So that I'm hiding nothing, I'm a codependant, submissive who is married to a Narcissistic woman. As a result she labels me (to everyone) as a control freak!
She's had several what other TAM forum members have deemed emotional affairs, or at the very least relationships where she's been "chased" by other men (online, in pubs/clubs, etc). These EAs/relationships have boosted her ego/self-esteem massively! I also believe that she is now essentially addicted to that ego-boosting feeling!
Anyway, my topic of discussion, and I hope it not to be inappropriate - it certainly isn't my intention.
We've been together since late teenage years and early-on in our relationship I tried to convince my then GF now W to shave her pubic area. She always trimmed the edges, but no more. She was/is particularly concerned with her appearance in general, always shaved underarms, legs, etc - so it was just her pubic-preference that was different to mine!
After months/years of gentle persuasion, I gave up. Sometimes it may get reduced to a landing strip, but normally, the full bush.
Anyway, with timing in keeping with another of my threads "is it cheating" when she changed her circle of friends to a new bunch (largely made up of divorcees, single mothers and those in what can only be described as either open marriages or a very ignorant/blind/also cheating husbands) the pubic preference also changed. From one extreme to the other if you follow!
All of a sudden I was a very happy guy, and I was assured it was for me, it crossed my mind that maybe her new friends had discussed this and she learned that maybe a shaved look was not seen as pervy or fetish-ist thing, but hey, I was happy.
However, it soon became obvious that it wasn't always done for me. It was now her norm and whilst I appreciate she has every right to her own preference (particularly with something so personal), certain things began to bother me.
In particular was the ritual of always been "smooth" before being with her friends. If she was on a night/weekend away with the girls then there was an absolute need to be totally bold - normally a last minute shower and shave!
Even if I politely asked that it me left to grow (like most men I got bored of the one style and was quite happy to see a change every now and again), it would be shaved totally before a night out with the girls. Every now and again she's actually said somethings like "but I had to before such-and-such-a-night", then explain it away as a throw-away comment.
So, I'm wondering, why is it that my wife seems to include the need to groom somewhere that nobody else should see? Is it a normal thing for women to do? I've thought possibly her friends might mock her for not being the same as them or something when sharing bathroom/restroom time.
The way I see it, my wife likes me to shave my chest, but I don't do it before I go out!
Apologies if this thread is inappropriate or if anyone thinks I should have posted it under another of my threads.
She's had several what other TAM forum members have deemed emotional affairs, or at the very least relationships where she's been "chased" by other men (online, in pubs/clubs, etc). These EAs/relationships have boosted her ego/self-esteem massively! I also believe that she is now essentially addicted to that ego-boosting feeling!
Anyway, my topic of discussion, and I hope it not to be inappropriate - it certainly isn't my intention.
We've been together since late teenage years and early-on in our relationship I tried to convince my then GF now W to shave her pubic area. She always trimmed the edges, but no more. She was/is particularly concerned with her appearance in general, always shaved underarms, legs, etc - so it was just her pubic-preference that was different to mine!
After months/years of gentle persuasion, I gave up. Sometimes it may get reduced to a landing strip, but normally, the full bush.
Anyway, with timing in keeping with another of my threads "is it cheating" when she changed her circle of friends to a new bunch (largely made up of divorcees, single mothers and those in what can only be described as either open marriages or a very ignorant/blind/also cheating husbands) the pubic preference also changed. From one extreme to the other if you follow!
All of a sudden I was a very happy guy, and I was assured it was for me, it crossed my mind that maybe her new friends had discussed this and she learned that maybe a shaved look was not seen as pervy or fetish-ist thing, but hey, I was happy.
However, it soon became obvious that it wasn't always done for me. It was now her norm and whilst I appreciate she has every right to her own preference (particularly with something so personal), certain things began to bother me.
In particular was the ritual of always been "smooth" before being with her friends. If she was on a night/weekend away with the girls then there was an absolute need to be totally bold - normally a last minute shower and shave!
Even if I politely asked that it me left to grow (like most men I got bored of the one style and was quite happy to see a change every now and again), it would be shaved totally before a night out with the girls. Every now and again she's actually said somethings like "but I had to before such-and-such-a-night", then explain it away as a throw-away comment.
So, I'm wondering, why is it that my wife seems to include the need to groom somewhere that nobody else should see? Is it a normal thing for women to do? I've thought possibly her friends might mock her for not being the same as them or something when sharing bathroom/restroom time.
The way I see it, my wife likes me to shave my chest, but I don't do it before I go out!
Apologies if this thread is inappropriate or if anyone thinks I should have posted it under another of my threads.
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