Hi. I have been happily married for a few months. This is my second marriage. My husband and I are very compatible, we get along well, we communicate openly. When something upsets me he can tell immediately and will bug me until I open up and talk about it.
I am really hoping he doesn't come across this (he knows about this site) which is why I did not put a more descriptive behavior in the title, but eitherway, I got the sense twice that my husband was embarrassed to be seen with me. Let me explain.
Recently we have been regularly going to a certain business for the same reason. We both ended up going to different locations because I was commuting to a different city. My schedule has changed and I asked to be transferred to his location. He had told me about the receptionist...an older woman (we are both in our 20s, he mentioned she's probably in her 40s) he told me she looked really good for her age, and probably had a boob job, and mentioned their convo which i honestly forgot) I just made a comment on why he was checking her rack out, and he just said well it was quite obvious.
Anyway, so fast forward to when I was told to come in with him as they scheduled me for the same time. He started acting weird when we were right outside the office, his body language was off. He was distancing himself and not walking with me as he usually does. We went in, walking ahead of me, and he didnt introduce me to the receptionist and just sat down..later on she called out and said "is that your lovely wife, "John"?"....anyway, I was really upset at this point. He was distant and he hadn't introduced me. No past boyfriend has ever made me feel this way, though I must confess, I knew what he was doing because I had done it in the past when I wasn't supposed to be seen with someone or was embarrassed. He could tell I was upset and when we got home I started crying...and he kept asking me, then said "is it because I didn't introduce you?" I said yes and that his body language was very strange..He kept apologizing and saying "I'm sorry, you know I'm awkward sometimes, bu t I am not most of the time" and I said, "you shouldn't be awkward at all, why are you embarrassed of me? What is wrong with me? If you are embarrassed to be seen with me than why did you marry me? to which he responded that I am being unfair because he always holds me in public, which is true. I then told him that its happened with people that he knows whom I havent met.
The other time I remember was when we were in a location where he may have run into some of his coworkers (who are mostly men) and he gave off that same body language and mentioned hoping not to run into any of them. I mentioned this to him and he just said "I just don't like running into coworkers in public" but why distance himself from me? I was upset for a good 24 hours, then let it go. But really, it is still something is still bothering me. I still have not met most of his friends because we are in a different city, so I don't know how that will be. I just don't know what to do.
I am really hoping he doesn't come across this (he knows about this site) which is why I did not put a more descriptive behavior in the title, but eitherway, I got the sense twice that my husband was embarrassed to be seen with me. Let me explain.
Recently we have been regularly going to a certain business for the same reason. We both ended up going to different locations because I was commuting to a different city. My schedule has changed and I asked to be transferred to his location. He had told me about the receptionist...an older woman (we are both in our 20s, he mentioned she's probably in her 40s) he told me she looked really good for her age, and probably had a boob job, and mentioned their convo which i honestly forgot) I just made a comment on why he was checking her rack out, and he just said well it was quite obvious.
Anyway, so fast forward to when I was told to come in with him as they scheduled me for the same time. He started acting weird when we were right outside the office, his body language was off. He was distancing himself and not walking with me as he usually does. We went in, walking ahead of me, and he didnt introduce me to the receptionist and just sat down..later on she called out and said "is that your lovely wife, "John"?"....anyway, I was really upset at this point. He was distant and he hadn't introduced me. No past boyfriend has ever made me feel this way, though I must confess, I knew what he was doing because I had done it in the past when I wasn't supposed to be seen with someone or was embarrassed. He could tell I was upset and when we got home I started crying...and he kept asking me, then said "is it because I didn't introduce you?" I said yes and that his body language was very strange..He kept apologizing and saying "I'm sorry, you know I'm awkward sometimes, bu t I am not most of the time" and I said, "you shouldn't be awkward at all, why are you embarrassed of me? What is wrong with me? If you are embarrassed to be seen with me than why did you marry me? to which he responded that I am being unfair because he always holds me in public, which is true. I then told him that its happened with people that he knows whom I havent met.
The other time I remember was when we were in a location where he may have run into some of his coworkers (who are mostly men) and he gave off that same body language and mentioned hoping not to run into any of them. I mentioned this to him and he just said "I just don't like running into coworkers in public" but why distance himself from me? I was upset for a good 24 hours, then let it go. But really, it is still something is still bothering me. I still have not met most of his friends because we are in a different city, so I don't know how that will be. I just don't know what to do.
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