My mum said to me that she wants me to stay a virgin until marriage, because she said 'Guys won't admit it, but they mind if you've had sex before.'
What bothers me is that our family is not religious but apparently virginity is a cherished thing in China. I then asked her 'But why is it okay for a man to not be a virgin?'
'Because Girls are special and different.'
'In what way?'
'They just are, girls should not have sex. It makes you easy.
Imagine a white cloth, having sex is like putting a blood stain on it, and you won't be able to remove it. Do you want that?'
I apologize if I have offended anyone, but these are not my words.
In our culture, family is very important. So I am torn between pleasing her and feeling ashamed if I were to get sexually involved with someone.
I am really unhappy because she has not given me a good reason,
If I am Christian or religious, then I understand. But we are not.
What do you think?Obviously people brought up in UK will have different beliefs and values, but I want to know if any girls were brought up a similar way.
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