My wife and I have been married for 4 years, and we've been together for 15. We're both in our early 40's. She very rarely wears jewelry, in fact, she almost never wears her (very expensive) wedding ring because she claims to be afraid of scuffing it up at work. In addition, she rarely wears the other jewelry that I bought for her in prior years. Last year, I bought a diamond bracelet that she wanted for her Birthday, and I can count on one hand the amount of times she's actually worn it within the year. It just sits in a box on the dresser collecting dust. I was upset about that because she kept begging for it, so I finally bought it and it never gets used.
Well, this year she wanted a diamond pendant for her Birthday, and kept hinting at it, but I refused to buy it. It would be something else sitting on the dresser collecting dust.
I ended up buying her flowers and a few other things that she'll actually use for her Birthday, but now, she's been moping around and insinuating that I don't care about her because I didn't spend hundreds of dollars on something that won't get touched. I feel kind of bad, but I can't justify spending that much money on something that she'll rarely (if at all) use, especially since we're planning to move and need to save money.
This newfound interest in jewelry within the last year has me puzzled; I think one of her friends/co-workers that's always in her ear is influencing her wanting jewelry all of a sudden because it's something she never cared about it in the past and she almost never wears it. I've even brought up that fact several times. This would be like me suddenly wanting video games, then never playing them once I got a console. It makes no sense to me.
Can I get a female perspective on this?
Well, this year she wanted a diamond pendant for her Birthday, and kept hinting at it, but I refused to buy it. It would be something else sitting on the dresser collecting dust.
I ended up buying her flowers and a few other things that she'll actually use for her Birthday, but now, she's been moping around and insinuating that I don't care about her because I didn't spend hundreds of dollars on something that won't get touched. I feel kind of bad, but I can't justify spending that much money on something that she'll rarely (if at all) use, especially since we're planning to move and need to save money.
This newfound interest in jewelry within the last year has me puzzled; I think one of her friends/co-workers that's always in her ear is influencing her wanting jewelry all of a sudden because it's something she never cared about it in the past and she almost never wears it. I've even brought up that fact several times. This would be like me suddenly wanting video games, then never playing them once I got a console. It makes no sense to me.
Can I get a female perspective on this?
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