Hello,
In January my husband and I will have been married for 3 years. I got pregnant and we got married in a courthouse 3 months before our daughter was born. We were engaged, but heavily influenced by our religious parents. He is 8 years older than I, and I was fairly young, 23.
Everything went perfectly while I was pregnant, awesome support, we got along, never fought, I remember being so incredibly happy.
On the day our daughter was born, I was taken to my room afterwards, my husband was out of the room and I noticed his phone going off (never had I even thought to check his phone, we had the perfect relationship, why even bother? I trusted him) It was one of his ex girlfriends responding to a picture text of our new daughter. I knew who most of his ex girlfriends were, and this was the one his friends would be *hush hush* about, they lived together, she cheated on him and they had a messy breakup.
Now I know I sound a little unreasonable, it is just an ex girlfriend, and he married me, but at the time, I could recall him giving me a huge speech on why he never talks to ex girlfriends anymore his words were along the lines of "I dont care about them anymore, you should never talk to ex girlfriends because that means you still have feelings about them". A million thoughts went racing, I cried alone in my hospital room, but tried my best to get over it and blame it on the hormones.
Hence again things were good. Our baby was 3 months old, and we would spend the nights playing a stupid word game together on our ipad, but we made it fun by kissing and laughing together and made our own rules.
A week later, I see his iphone going crazy on our dresser, turns out he is playing the same game, that we had turned a little sexual, with the same ex, and texting her ( I didnt have the heart to read it.)
I felt betrayed. I tried to talk to him about it and he became extremely upset and defensive. He deleted the game off of his phone, but I still feel betrayed. Am I overreacting? Was I just hormonal? I know it sounds crazy but everything has gone downhill since. For the past two years things have been getting worse and worse. I cant stand him, I dont want him to touch me anymore. We are both miserable, and we know we are both miserable. I cant get over feeling like I was betrayed, and that he pulled a shade over my eyes. Maybe he isnt who I thought he was. He has requested my phone records several times because he thinks I have cheated on him. I havent.
IS this something that I just need to get over and go to counseling? I feel hopeless, if we didnt have our daughter I would be gone. He makes a lot of money, and I have no family around, so I would have no job and nowhere to go.
Please help.
-O
In January my husband and I will have been married for 3 years. I got pregnant and we got married in a courthouse 3 months before our daughter was born. We were engaged, but heavily influenced by our religious parents. He is 8 years older than I, and I was fairly young, 23.
Everything went perfectly while I was pregnant, awesome support, we got along, never fought, I remember being so incredibly happy.
On the day our daughter was born, I was taken to my room afterwards, my husband was out of the room and I noticed his phone going off (never had I even thought to check his phone, we had the perfect relationship, why even bother? I trusted him) It was one of his ex girlfriends responding to a picture text of our new daughter. I knew who most of his ex girlfriends were, and this was the one his friends would be *hush hush* about, they lived together, she cheated on him and they had a messy breakup.
Now I know I sound a little unreasonable, it is just an ex girlfriend, and he married me, but at the time, I could recall him giving me a huge speech on why he never talks to ex girlfriends anymore his words were along the lines of "I dont care about them anymore, you should never talk to ex girlfriends because that means you still have feelings about them". A million thoughts went racing, I cried alone in my hospital room, but tried my best to get over it and blame it on the hormones.
Hence again things were good. Our baby was 3 months old, and we would spend the nights playing a stupid word game together on our ipad, but we made it fun by kissing and laughing together and made our own rules.
A week later, I see his iphone going crazy on our dresser, turns out he is playing the same game, that we had turned a little sexual, with the same ex, and texting her ( I didnt have the heart to read it.)
I felt betrayed. I tried to talk to him about it and he became extremely upset and defensive. He deleted the game off of his phone, but I still feel betrayed. Am I overreacting? Was I just hormonal? I know it sounds crazy but everything has gone downhill since. For the past two years things have been getting worse and worse. I cant stand him, I dont want him to touch me anymore. We are both miserable, and we know we are both miserable. I cant get over feeling like I was betrayed, and that he pulled a shade over my eyes. Maybe he isnt who I thought he was. He has requested my phone records several times because he thinks I have cheated on him. I havent.
IS this something that I just need to get over and go to counseling? I feel hopeless, if we didnt have our daughter I would be gone. He makes a lot of money, and I have no family around, so I would have no job and nowhere to go.
Please help.
-O
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