I know I can't be the only person that deals with this issue. I am 44, husband is 52 married 5 years and together 6. He has two sons (32 & 29) and I have a daughter (24) and a son (21). We have no children together. The 29 year old is the problem child. He is his father's "pick" as I call him. He is the favored child out of the children.
In the last six years since I have known him he has been in jail twice (and once before I met my husband) - DUI (2007), non payment of child support (2011) and possession of marijuana and paraphenalia (2012). My husband has paid his fines, court costs, paid twice to get his license reinstated after doing immature things like not paying a speeding ticket, not appearing in court etc. Just immature, simple things that he does over and over and his father (my husband) rushes in to "save" him. That's seems like enabling to me.
I recently discovered that I have some health issues and although I work full time, I am exhausted most days and STILL have to go home and do all the things required in keeping a home. I am SO tired of working and someone else being given the financial fruit of my work. This is the main issue in our marriage. We have discussed it multiple times but now if I mention it, my husband becomes angry and threatens me with divorce. He sides with his son, no matter what wrong he has committed. He makes excuses for him but admits that his son is a pathological liar.
Out of the 4 adult children, his 29 yo son is the ONLY one that he treats with way, with such favor. We have helped out the others here and there when they have hit rough patches (that's what parents do) but I have reached a breaking point on this situation. I think that it shows his son that he can do whatever he wants and not have to be accountable for the consequences. At least twice a year, there is a situation that arises. I don't know what else to do.
Any advice I may not have thought of?? I am ready to call an attorney and be done with this marriage although I REALLY don't want to divorce my husband. I don't know how else to get away from this parasite.
In the last six years since I have known him he has been in jail twice (and once before I met my husband) - DUI (2007), non payment of child support (2011) and possession of marijuana and paraphenalia (2012). My husband has paid his fines, court costs, paid twice to get his license reinstated after doing immature things like not paying a speeding ticket, not appearing in court etc. Just immature, simple things that he does over and over and his father (my husband) rushes in to "save" him. That's seems like enabling to me.
I recently discovered that I have some health issues and although I work full time, I am exhausted most days and STILL have to go home and do all the things required in keeping a home. I am SO tired of working and someone else being given the financial fruit of my work. This is the main issue in our marriage. We have discussed it multiple times but now if I mention it, my husband becomes angry and threatens me with divorce. He sides with his son, no matter what wrong he has committed. He makes excuses for him but admits that his son is a pathological liar.
Out of the 4 adult children, his 29 yo son is the ONLY one that he treats with way, with such favor. We have helped out the others here and there when they have hit rough patches (that's what parents do) but I have reached a breaking point on this situation. I think that it shows his son that he can do whatever he wants and not have to be accountable for the consequences. At least twice a year, there is a situation that arises. I don't know what else to do.
Any advice I may not have thought of?? I am ready to call an attorney and be done with this marriage although I REALLY don't want to divorce my husband. I don't know how else to get away from this parasite.
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