The Past

I've seen some differing opinions on here as to marrying someone with a "checkered" past. But what would you do if you really didn't know your spouses past until after you were married? My husband has been married multiple times (I'm #4) and I knew this going in, as well as some long term girlfriends in between. But I didn't find out until after we were married about all the one night stands and, worst of all, swinging lifestyle he had with his 3rd ex wife. He was ashamed to tell me, regretted not telling me earlier, but was afraid that I would have left him. And to be honest, I don't know if I would have stayed with him had I known all of that before we were married. Yes, it was his past, but oh my God, there was SO much! But the man I knew, the man I had dated, been engaged to and married, that man was not the same man who had gone out picking up women in bars prior to me and going to sex clubs with his ****ty ex wife. He honestly wanted to make a change in life, started along that path, met me and really, REALLY just wanted the past to go away (although it never really can). So that being said, had I known about his true past up front would I have stayed? I honestly and truly don't know. Because in hindsight if I had walked away from him because of his past, then I wouldn't have a wonderful relationship that I have now with someone I really care about and love, and who truly loves me. So how do you know when to judge someone on their past?

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