| I have been going out with a partner for 4 years in a loving committed relationship. His children have left home, mine are 10 & 15. He does not want to live together till my children have left home as he does not want to come home to a "family" , be a surrogate father & father responsibilities. There is no way he will lived together until such time. This is impacting on me, as i see myself as a convenient long term girlfriend whom he receives all the benefits of a "marraige" but no commitment, in particular , i am not comfortable with the idea of not building some financial security between us. We both have our own financial assets & income. What is lacking is I am afraid of being dumped at 60 (now i am still pretty at 50), and where will I be, after serving his needs for companionship, sex, etc, for ages and ages. I can agree to separate household due to his reason, but how do I solve this "financial commitment & rights" as we dont live tog ether? Does a long term girlfriend got no rights? Can I have an legal arrangement with him with his consent, so I can have peace of mind, he is not stringing me along for the free ride? Am I being mean or insecure for no reasons? He has also the opinion in 2nd relationships, couples keep their own assets, no one has claims to anything, even if they live together. I feel this is not correct, as we must have some asset base together for our contribution. |
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