Is Facebook destroying my relationship or is it me.

My girlfriends spends a lot of time on her phone using Facebook and Instagram. I'm talking hours out of the day. She has been working on starting a clothing line for over two years. Well since I've known her that's all she's talked about. She claims that Facebook and Instagram is her source for inspiration and ideas. I get that. But she also uses it to obsess and follow other people and that leads her to getting in bad moods because they are doing things with their life's and she hasn't got a break. I've personally shelled out over $6000 in equipment materials and my personal time to help her start her company. Two years later she's still not doing anything except spending countless hours on her phone "researching". She constantly holds her phone she even sleeps with her phone and often times the phone is in between me and her in our bed. She will get on Facebook and obsess over another couple on Facebook and will spend hours hours out of her day obsessing and talking and letting it affect her mood. She follows people on Facebook and Instagram constantly throughout the day she is referring to her phone. We have been together for two years and this is how she has been from the very start. In the beginning I'll overlooked it but as time went on she became more and more and more obsessed with Facebook and Instagram. Like I said she sleeps with her phone. Over the last few months I have made statements and asked her to please cut down on her phone use. She has bought me on this and says that because I am 10 years older than her and that this kind of activity on her phone is what is of her generation. She says that I am just jealous and insecure and that I should not have an issue with her be ing on the phone. I have made suggestions and I have asked her to please cut down on the amount of time that she is on Facebook and Instagram. I had even asked her to give me a hug and a kiss or hold my hand for every time that she gets on the phone for Facebook or Instagram and she has denied this because she says she is on it too much that she would not be able to keep track. I am a pretty forgiving fellow and pretty understanding and I have a lot of patience. Yet again today we had another argument over this. Now I am not against Facebook or Instagram or phone use but we have both come to an understanding and we have both acknowledged that she is on her phone is awful lot. We have both also it knowledge that there has been a distance between us and that we need to spend more time reconnecting. We started out having a wonderful day hiking in the mountains and bouldering. After two hours spending time together after I have started a new job working 12 hour shifts and sleepi ng two hours a night and seen her for a total of about two hours a day minute we get to the car she gets on her phone stayed on it from 730 until 130 tonight. I made a statement a statement saying that I was uncomfortable with how much time she spent on the phone today. She claims that I am just jealous and insecure. And that this is something that I'm going to have to learn to deal with because she is not going to change the amount of time she spends on the phone doing research for marketing purposes. She has been very good over the last two years making me feel bad about having questions and wanting to be closer to her. All I wanted to do was spend time with her on this weekend and reconnect. And by me making a simple statement of her spending too much time on her phone it led into such a huge argument that I am not at home. I am trying to grow as a person and I am trying to be the best partner for her that I can be. I am trying to understand that I am giving as much attention as possible and I am being very very patient. I do not feel that I am being jealous or insecure but I could be wrong. Like I said we have both acknowledge that she spends way too much time on her iPhone and that we have created a distance between us and our relationship and that we were going to work on reconnecting. Am I wrong for feeling that Facebook Instagram and iPhone are coming between me and my girlfriend. Now I understand there are other underlying issues. And these issues need to be addressed as well. But I would really appreciate any input argument rationalizations from both men and women young and old.

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