| Long story short - me and my husband have always been rather bland in the bedroom. Part of this was lack of education. Neither had prior experience. Eventually, as the wife, I did some reading and realized things could be so much 'more' and I thought I could be a better wife in the bedroom and we'd been missing out. Nothing radical but I tried to up the frequency, tried to be a bit more creative and then came to realize how inhibited my husband actually is. My being just a little more assertive in the bedroom seemed to freak him out a bit. I told him I'd like him to be a bit more assertive in the bedroom but he says he can't be. The end result of trying to change things is that our sex life is now a mess. He feels inadequate and I feel rejected. I've told him I wish I could wind the clock back and not try to change anything to avoid the current situation. How do I fix this so we can both go back to what was and feel happy with it? Or is it a matte r of time heals? I really wish I'd left well enough alone. |
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