"I still care about you"

That's the parting line I got from my ex-husband this weekend, and it irritates me in ways I can't fully explain. Backstory... my ex located both his high school and college GF's on Facebook, and started affairs with both of them that resulted in ending both their marriages in addition to ours. When I began to suspect that this was happening, I received repeated denials. He finally up and moved one day, quit his job with no notice, and moved five hours away from our daughter to move straight in to the home of the college gf, which is where he's lived for the past two years. His visits with our daughter are somewhat infrequent. Her birthday was this past weekend, and since I knew that her biggest birthday wish was to spend some quality time with her Dad, I invited him to come for the weekend and stay at our house (since having to stay at a hotel is an expense he says he cannot afford.) No, I didn't want him under my roof.... but I wanted to see my daughter happy. It sucks to see her hurt over her father's poor choices every single day. He was very thankful that I allowed him the opportunity, and they had a great weekend together. And then when he goes to leave, he hugs me and delivers the, "I still care about you" parting line. WTF? I'm too bruised and scorn to figure this out. Is that a way of him alleviating his own guilt? To try to convince himself and me that there's still some caring feelings there? He is dying to be my friend. As I've told him before, my friends don't treat me the same way he did. When I look back at the situation, its not the cheating that bothers me as much as the lying. I asked him repeatedly for months if he was cheating, and he denied it. I filed for divorce based on my suspicions, not on a definite admission that infidelity had happened. Just want some unbiased opinions on what this is. My response back to him was, "Really? You sure have a strange way of showing that."

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