| I have posted previously and got some great advice, which admittingly I did not follow as I should have. 20 years together 11 years married 10 year old daughter. Relationship has never been easy, but I always thought we were OK. He did cheat 10 years ago, truth is we never recovered from that because he never wanted to own up to why he did it. We moved on startd over in a new home and he promised he would try harder to make things work...it did not happen. OCtober 2012 told me he wanted a divorce. I do the girl thing and cry and beg and try to understand why he is throwing it all away. I try to get him to talk til I am blue in the face - so all I did was push him further away. Dec-Jan we got along great. Friday before Xmas he texts me to meet him for drinks and we had a great time....(this is the first time we had been out at all in years).....he has not asked me for drinks in well over 10 years....I thought it was an effort.... 2 weeks ago I try to communciate about where we are at and he says we are over he is not in love, have nothing in common blah blah blah. He went away for a week for a week, came back and I wanted answers...4 months in limbo with mixed communication is draining. Last night....we fought, I said you have to go I cannot do this anymore. He left this mornign for work and said he would be back over thw eekend for more stuff. I phoned him today to let him know I love him and that I am sorry for things I have said that may have hurt him (I spoke to a male friend last night -- JUST A FRIEND FROM HIGH SCHOOL! - to get a guys point of view --- he made me realize how things I said with good intentions could have been taken wrong)....so I apologixed and told him all I want is for him to be happy and if he needs me I am here for him...that things I say although maybe said wrong, are only said out of love and a want for him to be happy. He surprisingly did text me just to let meknow he got the message --- I was so not expecting that. Also when I was on the phone with my friend last night...my husband came downstairs from his bedroom and asked who the hell was I on the phone with...I said its none of your business....he asked again I said the same...then he stood an stared at me while I was on the phone for a good 10 minutes or so..... I told him today who I was speaking with...but I find it odd that a man who does not love me and does not want to be with me cares to know who I am on the phone with... Let me finish with....I think has mild depression...possibly severe.....I have spoke to my therapist about his behaviors and she fels it could be as well. So tonite he is gone...I am honestly not sure what the plan is....I dont know if he got an apartment if he is in a hotel....I know there is not another woman at this point since he is home all the time.... Asking him to leave was right - we need the space.... But what do I do from here? I want to fight for my marriage, I do not know if we have a chance...he is so determined to not fix anything...but again I do not know what is true or not...he says things to hurt me all the time lately.... But how do you really handle things once they are out....I know he will be here over the weekend to see our daughter and get more stuff.....but what do I do with that time and the next few days?!?!? Any help is appreciated!!!! | |||
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