My H suggested that we invite a neighbor and their two young boys (ages 5 and 8) (our son is almost 4) over on a fri nite for a movie nite....the neighbor (woman friend I've met from gym) agreed.
We have a beautiful finished basement with a projector screen (ie, movie screen), with cool see through fridge that we just got (my H was dying to show it off, thus the invite) and a snack caddy with popcorn, raisinettes, cookies, etc....it's a complete "snack bar" and very eye catching...
So, when they came last nite at 6:30 pm my H insisted on starting the movie right away....the kids, at first, were into it...then the mother asked me to go "upstairs" with her so we could chat...
Wasn't sure how long she wanted to chat and I knew my H wouldn't be happy to be alone with the 3 kids, but I felt any kind of convo in the way of "Honey, M wants to go upstairs and talk, is that OKAY??" would have made me look like a wimp, and would most likely embarrass HER....so I kept my mouth shut and went upstairs with her....she said her H would be there soon to keep my husband company.
She started talking about her upbringing, etc...and I could hear her sons making noise downstairs....I suggested we check on them? and she said "no" they're fine....she was dying to talk...
then her H arrived and we all went downstairs to greet him.
I turned off the light downstairs b/c I thought we were ALL going to stay downstairs (as I would do if we had his cousins over)...
SHE WENT BACK UPSTAIRS AND TURNED ON THE LIGHT WAITING FOR ME TO FOLLOW HER! I couldn't have her upstairs by herself and didn't want to be rude so I went up and continued our convo...her H came up and asked why we were up there....she said we were having girltalk and he said he wanted to go home.
She said he just got there and to please go back down...
He went down but I don't think he was happy....neither was my H...eventually my son called out for me and we both went down, her H went home (they arrived separately)....and the movie ended, everyone went home.....she said next time it would have to be at her place...
Later, my H gave me an earful.....why did I leave? I told her SHE suggested it and I felt funny "asking" if it was okay....he said I shouldn't worry about HER but HIM and that I should have checked with HIM first.....I said I agreed, but felt it would have been awkward.....and that she went up there again and I felt like I had to go up...(truth is I wanted to too....)
He said next time HE was going upstairs to watch tennis and would make ME and HER babysit the kids....I agreed (and kind of laughed to myself that this stressed him out so much)...
I'm thinking that she lets her kids play at others houses and either doesn't worry about it; and/or thought my H was capable and that this wouldn't stress him out...
Readers??? Any thoughts how you would have handled a guest who wanted YOUR attention and had no issues leaving her kids with MY H (and our own son??)
Should this NOT have stressed out my H? would others not be stressed?
We have a beautiful finished basement with a projector screen (ie, movie screen), with cool see through fridge that we just got (my H was dying to show it off, thus the invite) and a snack caddy with popcorn, raisinettes, cookies, etc....it's a complete "snack bar" and very eye catching...
So, when they came last nite at 6:30 pm my H insisted on starting the movie right away....the kids, at first, were into it...then the mother asked me to go "upstairs" with her so we could chat...
Wasn't sure how long she wanted to chat and I knew my H wouldn't be happy to be alone with the 3 kids, but I felt any kind of convo in the way of "Honey, M wants to go upstairs and talk, is that OKAY??" would have made me look like a wimp, and would most likely embarrass HER....so I kept my mouth shut and went upstairs with her....she said her H would be there soon to keep my husband company.
She started talking about her upbringing, etc...and I could hear her sons making noise downstairs....I suggested we check on them? and she said "no" they're fine....she was dying to talk...
then her H arrived and we all went downstairs to greet him.
I turned off the light downstairs b/c I thought we were ALL going to stay downstairs (as I would do if we had his cousins over)...
SHE WENT BACK UPSTAIRS AND TURNED ON THE LIGHT WAITING FOR ME TO FOLLOW HER! I couldn't have her upstairs by herself and didn't want to be rude so I went up and continued our convo...her H came up and asked why we were up there....she said we were having girltalk and he said he wanted to go home.
She said he just got there and to please go back down...
He went down but I don't think he was happy....neither was my H...eventually my son called out for me and we both went down, her H went home (they arrived separately)....and the movie ended, everyone went home.....she said next time it would have to be at her place...
Later, my H gave me an earful.....why did I leave? I told her SHE suggested it and I felt funny "asking" if it was okay....he said I shouldn't worry about HER but HIM and that I should have checked with HIM first.....I said I agreed, but felt it would have been awkward.....and that she went up there again and I felt like I had to go up...(truth is I wanted to too....)
He said next time HE was going upstairs to watch tennis and would make ME and HER babysit the kids....I agreed (and kind of laughed to myself that this stressed him out so much)...
I'm thinking that she lets her kids play at others houses and either doesn't worry about it; and/or thought my H was capable and that this wouldn't stress him out...
Readers??? Any thoughts how you would have handled a guest who wanted YOUR attention and had no issues leaving her kids with MY H (and our own son??)
Should this NOT have stressed out my H? would others not be stressed?
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