My wife and I have been together for 13 years, married for 10+. We both still love each other so very much. We're in our mid-to-late 40's and both work.
I've tried several times to talk to my wife about our sex life but I'm never too sure how to approach it and I rarely get the point across effectively.
I myself, did plenty of research and I think I made sex a lot better for her and she agrees. Sure, sex is certainly better than it was yet I feel its mostly all about her. There is absolutely nothing I wouldn't do for my wife if she asked, because I love her that much - however, she never asks me to do anything and her boundaries are very restrictive. Yes my physical needs are met (it's not too difficult being a man ha ha) but I'm left wanting more emotionally.
This may sound a little selfish. I'm not even sure what I want. I just think it would be nice to have my clothes tore off me and be thrown to living room floor etc without ever making it to the bedroom; to be surprised on getting home from work by her opening the door wearing nothing but some nice lingerie; her actually doing something in bed she would usually say no to; telling me she's gone commando during a date night meal etc. I simply don't know - just something that shows she still craves me and still finds me attractive etc.
Catch 22 - If I tell her what I want then she hasn't done it through her own initiative. You wouldn't tell your partner to surprise you with breakfast in bed in the morning because it wouldn't be a surprise then would it?
Any suggestions or should I just be happy with what I have?
Thanks for reading.
I've tried several times to talk to my wife about our sex life but I'm never too sure how to approach it and I rarely get the point across effectively.
I myself, did plenty of research and I think I made sex a lot better for her and she agrees. Sure, sex is certainly better than it was yet I feel its mostly all about her. There is absolutely nothing I wouldn't do for my wife if she asked, because I love her that much - however, she never asks me to do anything and her boundaries are very restrictive. Yes my physical needs are met (it's not too difficult being a man ha ha) but I'm left wanting more emotionally.
This may sound a little selfish. I'm not even sure what I want. I just think it would be nice to have my clothes tore off me and be thrown to living room floor etc without ever making it to the bedroom; to be surprised on getting home from work by her opening the door wearing nothing but some nice lingerie; her actually doing something in bed she would usually say no to; telling me she's gone commando during a date night meal etc. I simply don't know - just something that shows she still craves me and still finds me attractive etc.
Catch 22 - If I tell her what I want then she hasn't done it through her own initiative. You wouldn't tell your partner to surprise you with breakfast in bed in the morning because it wouldn't be a surprise then would it?
Any suggestions or should I just be happy with what I have?
Thanks for reading.
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