Hello everyone. I am married for 3 years now. Everything in our relationship seems to be fine, good sex-life, feelings are there, very good relation with parents and so on. Thing is, recently i began having trust issues. I keep catching myself on the thought that im being lied to or not told the whole truth. Things like calling her and she doesn't answer the phone, telling me 2 hours later she didnt hear it but later i find a few text messages during the period of time that she "didn't hear" her phone. Or sometimes going out with her girlfriends and then telling me stories about how some of them cheated on their husbands or how one of them has an affair with her boss and she is helping her through this "difficult" times. Don't really know what to take from that.
So, a more recent situation:
She had to go away for a month to our home country to complete her exams and get her medical license. So for 2 weeks she is constantly out meeting her colleagues, getting information/books for the exams and so on.
A few days ago the city had an annual fest and she told me the day before the fest that she wants to go for a few hours with 2-3 friends. Ofcourse im fine with that, no question about it. Than a few hours before leaving she calls and tells me her friends can't go, but she will still go alone to clear her head before the next days exam. I say sure, being supportive and all. Right before leaving she calls me on skype and i see she is all dressed up, looking really nice. I didn't comment on it thinking its a fest she wants to look nice and im just jealous. Now 4-5 hours pass and and its 10pm so im thinking she might already be back (has an exam the next day) so i text her to get on skype as we always do before going to bed. No answer, so half an hour later i try calling her.. still nothing. One more hour passes and im starting to get nervous and having these crazy thoughts if something happened to her or she is with some guy.. I call her again, she doesnt pick up, but texts me she is on the way home and didnt hear the phone. So i tell her that i can't really believe she went alone for 6-7 hours (as she is very communicative and social, so being alone is not something she likes) and why doesn't she pick up her phone, especially when having an exam the next day and a medical one at that. Again she texts me that she didn't hear the phone, too many people around, blames being so late on bad traffic, although the city is not very big, normally takes 10-15 minutes by car or public transportation to get home. When she got home she texted me that she met one of her colleagues and went with her and her friends. So the story changed 3 times: 1. she was supposed to go with friends, 2nd alone and 3rd she went with colleagues.
She is still there and i have really mixed feelings and thoughts. Its not only about this story, but everything together, small lies i caught her with and so on. Don't really know what to say or do. What are your thoughts?
So, a more recent situation:
She had to go away for a month to our home country to complete her exams and get her medical license. So for 2 weeks she is constantly out meeting her colleagues, getting information/books for the exams and so on.
A few days ago the city had an annual fest and she told me the day before the fest that she wants to go for a few hours with 2-3 friends. Ofcourse im fine with that, no question about it. Than a few hours before leaving she calls and tells me her friends can't go, but she will still go alone to clear her head before the next days exam. I say sure, being supportive and all. Right before leaving she calls me on skype and i see she is all dressed up, looking really nice. I didn't comment on it thinking its a fest she wants to look nice and im just jealous. Now 4-5 hours pass and and its 10pm so im thinking she might already be back (has an exam the next day) so i text her to get on skype as we always do before going to bed. No answer, so half an hour later i try calling her.. still nothing. One more hour passes and im starting to get nervous and having these crazy thoughts if something happened to her or she is with some guy.. I call her again, she doesnt pick up, but texts me she is on the way home and didnt hear the phone. So i tell her that i can't really believe she went alone for 6-7 hours (as she is very communicative and social, so being alone is not something she likes) and why doesn't she pick up her phone, especially when having an exam the next day and a medical one at that. Again she texts me that she didn't hear the phone, too many people around, blames being so late on bad traffic, although the city is not very big, normally takes 10-15 minutes by car or public transportation to get home. When she got home she texted me that she met one of her colleagues and went with her and her friends. So the story changed 3 times: 1. she was supposed to go with friends, 2nd alone and 3rd she went with colleagues.
She is still there and i have really mixed feelings and thoughts. Its not only about this story, but everything together, small lies i caught her with and so on. Don't really know what to say or do. What are your thoughts?
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