Married 20+ years, and while we've managed some good times, its been a constant struggle for me.
1. For various reasons, we've slowly moved away from relationships with my side of the family. If I ever bring up the issue, she quickly points out how it was me who decided this or that...which is BS.
2. Went to a uncle's funeral where of course my family wanted to spend time with us...wife had predetermined we had an out by planning to work from home afterwards. Of course she never works that late....
3. I'm constantly interrogated where I'm defending my relationships at work. Even when I propose to help her with a new position in our company instead of inquiring about it I'm asked "how do you know these people", "how well do you know them"...they are females by the way (admin staff and project managers who know about upcoming opportunities).
4. This type thing has gone on for our entire marriage. I finally was close to calling it quits a few months ago, but couldn't stand the thought of my wife being hurt...
5. she admitted and also accepted the fact of having insecurities promised to get help. However 8 weeks later and she just flipped everything on me, and saying maybe I was the one who needed help, that it was normal for a spouse to "question" the other blah...blah...blah.
I love her, but I no longer have any friends. My relatives are not in my life and there's this constant reoccurring pattern where she attempts to put me in my place...lashing out at me for "not caring about her" and "not making her primary part of my life"...etc.
I need to be stronger and need help!
1. For various reasons, we've slowly moved away from relationships with my side of the family. If I ever bring up the issue, she quickly points out how it was me who decided this or that...which is BS.
2. Went to a uncle's funeral where of course my family wanted to spend time with us...wife had predetermined we had an out by planning to work from home afterwards. Of course she never works that late....
3. I'm constantly interrogated where I'm defending my relationships at work. Even when I propose to help her with a new position in our company instead of inquiring about it I'm asked "how do you know these people", "how well do you know them"...they are females by the way (admin staff and project managers who know about upcoming opportunities).
4. This type thing has gone on for our entire marriage. I finally was close to calling it quits a few months ago, but couldn't stand the thought of my wife being hurt...
5. she admitted and also accepted the fact of having insecurities promised to get help. However 8 weeks later and she just flipped everything on me, and saying maybe I was the one who needed help, that it was normal for a spouse to "question" the other blah...blah...blah.
I love her, but I no longer have any friends. My relatives are not in my life and there's this constant reoccurring pattern where she attempts to put me in my place...lashing out at me for "not caring about her" and "not making her primary part of my life"...etc.
I need to be stronger and need help!
Put the internet to work for you.
No comments:
Post a Comment