BACKGROUND: Basically me and my girlfriend of two months (LDR right now), have been having arguments lately a hell of a lot, and I've been trying to settle them all. Mostly surface out of our insecurities and the fact she tells me to be honest and then when I do she seems fine and reassures me, and then gets offended.
Me and her got talking and discussing our recent arguments and resolving, and then we got talking about her telling me I should witness her on a night in town. She affirmed I wouldn't like her when she's that drunk (almost suggesting she's promiscuous without saying), and that she thought I wouldn't be able to deal with her given my views.
She then discusses "dirty dancing" and says she regularly does it when drunk with friends. I then confronted her, she tells me she would only do it with me. But then, I tell her my views, and say I would not ever do it with anyone.
I have very conservative views on relationships...and whilst she tells me she is exclusive to me, she seems to have no problem admitting she likes to dirty dance. I find this uncomfortable, but at same time told her she shouldn't change. When discussing she seemed hostile, and somewhat offended I didn't share her view. She quickly got defensive and implied I was judging. Then stated she feels guilty as she'd need to monitor her behaviour whilst out.
She tried to give me her point of view and make out I was being silly, stating I have obviously never been in a club and seen what people do.
Almost as though justifying it, saying it's just about having fun, she seemed to vilify my viewpoint as though I can't have fun. She said going by my opinion, in this case, then it means she has cheated/done wrong whilst been with me. She stated she does so with friends. I said it doesn't matter since alcohol, attraction, emotion and sex equals infidelity.
I'm not impressed if I'm honest, and I just feel this is going to cause trouble. It's awkward with our differing opinions, but I do love her.
She just seems to be pretty negative towards me for my opinion. I just feel that dirty dancing is wrong when your exclusive with someone. She pretty much told me that if I was going to have to accept it or leave.
How would you feel and do?
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