Ok. So the title is weird, but every married person who has a mother that they are close to might be able to relate. My husband said something to me that just really struck a chord last night. He said that my mother has the ability to put pressure on me and make me upset easily. I started thinking about what he said and on some level he is correct.
I have always been close to my mother, and I never like to do things to upset her. When I married my spouse, she was not happy. Why? He is not from the same country and my parents thought it was not wise. I can understand, but I told my mother I was happy and she accepted it. Now that we have a child, she has been pressuring us to move closer to her because she is afraid she wont know her grandchild.
I feel guilty, but at the same time this is our life and we have chosen to live where we are at this time because my husband can make money and support us. When we get finished here in 2 years, we plan on moving closer. My mom came here for the birth, and she keeps making these comments since she left about not being able to see him and hoping he speaks English (we live in the gulf right now for work purposes). As silly as that is, it does upset me. I cry and get upset at my husband and I know I am guilty of venting my anger on him.
How do other people deal with pressure from family members? My mother is not a drama queen or anything. In fact, nobody in my family is like that at all. She just can't accept that for these 2 years we will be apart. And I do send her pics and videos of the baby everyday and we skype as well. How can I be respectful of my mother and tell her that its only 2 years?
I have always been close to my mother, and I never like to do things to upset her. When I married my spouse, she was not happy. Why? He is not from the same country and my parents thought it was not wise. I can understand, but I told my mother I was happy and she accepted it. Now that we have a child, she has been pressuring us to move closer to her because she is afraid she wont know her grandchild.
I feel guilty, but at the same time this is our life and we have chosen to live where we are at this time because my husband can make money and support us. When we get finished here in 2 years, we plan on moving closer. My mom came here for the birth, and she keeps making these comments since she left about not being able to see him and hoping he speaks English (we live in the gulf right now for work purposes). As silly as that is, it does upset me. I cry and get upset at my husband and I know I am guilty of venting my anger on him.
How do other people deal with pressure from family members? My mother is not a drama queen or anything. In fact, nobody in my family is like that at all. She just can't accept that for these 2 years we will be apart. And I do send her pics and videos of the baby everyday and we skype as well. How can I be respectful of my mother and tell her that its only 2 years?
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