Hi everyone,
My boyfriend and I met in our last year of uni and i am a white english girl and athiest and he is a Bengali hindu (but non-practising). He's an overseas student so his family lives in Bangladesh, and he's been here for 5 years.
We have so much in common and do everything together and have almost been together for a year.
My problem is this:
I know he really loves me and he tells me this all the time. However, his family is not very open minded so he wont even think about telling them about our relationship. It's possible that they will be trying to get him to do an arranged marriage at some point too, and they might even be looking for possible wives for him already.
He said he may be able to choose his own wife, but only if she is 'bengali and hindu' aswell.
I've asked him to at least try to tell his mum before (His dad passed away a few months ago) but he just flat out refuses and says he 'doesnt want to hurt her' because she will be expecting him to marry someone that she will choose.
He is thinking about doing a PhD here so will be here for another 3/4 years. But i don't see how he can expect me to spend another 4 years of my life with him when it can't go anywhere, as he wont even attempt to tell his mum.
I'm thinking of saying to him that if he doesnt at least try to tell her then i won't be staying with him for another 4 years. Is this being unreasonable??
I really love him and want to get married to him (but i know how difficult this would be with his Hindu family)
Advice needed please :(
thanks
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