My boyfriend and I are in our early 50's. We've been together 3+ years, living together half that time. He got an iphone about 2 years ago. Right before we moved into together his cell phone usage began to increase. Some texting, mostly playing games and Facebook.
Fast forward to now, the phone never leaves his hand. We will be in the middle of a conversation, he gets a text, he immediately reads it and responds. Maybe I'm old. I think it's rude. I'll just either wait til he's done responding, then resume the conversation (albeit a bit irritated at the interuption) or simply walk away and do something else.
He loves to watch TV. I don't particularly like to do so, but will watch certain shows with him. He'll ask me to watch a show, I'll settle in beside him, and inevitably he will pull his phone out to check Facebook and/or play a game. I counted, he checked his Facebook account 13 times in less than one hour last night during a show he wanted me to watch with him.
It's frankly irritating and frustrating to me. He can't understand why I care what he's doing if we are sitting there watching TV together. Before he fell in love with his phone, we would actually interact during a show. Now he's off in his own little world. This caused a big ugly argument last night.
And no, he's not texting/messaging other women on Facebook. He thinks I'm unreasonable for wanting him to actually be present in mind and body when we are together a couple of hours in the evening.
Surely this is not the new normal?
Fast forward to now, the phone never leaves his hand. We will be in the middle of a conversation, he gets a text, he immediately reads it and responds. Maybe I'm old. I think it's rude. I'll just either wait til he's done responding, then resume the conversation (albeit a bit irritated at the interuption) or simply walk away and do something else.
He loves to watch TV. I don't particularly like to do so, but will watch certain shows with him. He'll ask me to watch a show, I'll settle in beside him, and inevitably he will pull his phone out to check Facebook and/or play a game. I counted, he checked his Facebook account 13 times in less than one hour last night during a show he wanted me to watch with him.
It's frankly irritating and frustrating to me. He can't understand why I care what he's doing if we are sitting there watching TV together. Before he fell in love with his phone, we would actually interact during a show. Now he's off in his own little world. This caused a big ugly argument last night.
And no, he's not texting/messaging other women on Facebook. He thinks I'm unreasonable for wanting him to actually be present in mind and body when we are together a couple of hours in the evening.
Surely this is not the new normal?
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